Prettysmile
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Now that I've got you guys attention. I really would like to hear from a suffererr who can probably answer this thread better than the carer.
My Marine and I we go through our ups and downs too as a couple. Well the only thing I deal with is his silence for a couple days where I feel like he doesnt even miss me even though he always say he does. When he is away and he doesnt reply to text messages or calls its simply terrible. But I can honestly say as long as I've known my marine which we've dated on and off for the past two years before I recently discovered he has PTSD. Whenever we were together he was always very affectionate, passionate, gentle and he non stop flatters me with compliments always and that has never changed. We never had a real argument or fight he is just not that kind of person. I am but he somehow mellows me out.
My Marine is extremly physically attracted to me and vice versa. We are a very good looking couple I must say so myself lol not to be conceited but we're told that all the time. We are that couple who is making out no matter where we are restaurant, night clubs, house parties. No matter where we are we are kissing each other all the time. And we are both in our late 20's, we are not teenagers. lol We are the couple people will say " hey get a room!". But since he has been home for the past two months (which is when i discovered he has Combat PTSD) the affection and the making out hasnt changed. He is still very into me. We get along great. When he is not in his lows we do talk about everything, even the war. But when it comes to us having sex, he always wants it, he always initates it but when it happens he's been feeling really guilty. Either right before we start when were both undress ( I hope this is not too much info) he almost always stops and say " this is wrong we shouldnt be doing this" when I ask him why all he can say is " i dont know, I just feel guilty". Before I knew he had PTSD I thought he had another woman and he felt guilty because he was cheating. I flat out asked him " Guilty? are you cheating on someone by us making love? what do you mean by you feel guilty?" He just kept saying he doesnt know.
Then there are times right during us being intimate he will suddenly stop and say, No we should stop. I asked why he says " i dont know.. Maybe I want to marry you, maybe i want you to have my kids." I'm wondering if he stops because during us being intimate he feels alot of emotions he cant figure out? He tells me he loves making love to me, maybe way too much and thats why we shouldnt. It doesnt happen every single time but it happens often where he wants to stop because he feels guilty. Someone please explain this part of PTSD because he sure cant and I do understand it. And if indeed it has something to do with his PTSD, why does he constantly initiate it?!
Should I be the one to stop him when he starts? By the way thats hard to do. We are very much in love and into each other. As a matter of fact whenever he goes away for a couple of days and I do text him and say " hey are you coming over later to watch a movie?' He will say no he cant come over because he knows were not gonna watch a movie. He says he knows when he sees me that he is going to want to be intimate. And that he is trying to avoid that from happening.
So Let me tell you guys what I am interpreting from what he is telling me:
He loves me, Thinks I will be his wife one day, loves making love to me but doesnt want to because we shouldnt do that because he feels guilty for a reason he is unsure of. Its hard for us to have quality time because he is distracted by being turned on by me..
Okay, I dont want to make it seem like our relationship is based on this. Out of the two years I've known my marine. The majority of our relationship was over the phone because he was staioned in another state and would only come home on Federal Holidays. The last two months is the most I have ever seen him face to face in two years. I dont mind having a realtionship without sex until we get married. But I am confused as to why he loves sex so much but then backs out everytime. How does feeling guilt during sex relate to his combat ptsd??
My Marine and I we go through our ups and downs too as a couple. Well the only thing I deal with is his silence for a couple days where I feel like he doesnt even miss me even though he always say he does. When he is away and he doesnt reply to text messages or calls its simply terrible. But I can honestly say as long as I've known my marine which we've dated on and off for the past two years before I recently discovered he has PTSD. Whenever we were together he was always very affectionate, passionate, gentle and he non stop flatters me with compliments always and that has never changed. We never had a real argument or fight he is just not that kind of person. I am but he somehow mellows me out.
My Marine is extremly physically attracted to me and vice versa. We are a very good looking couple I must say so myself lol not to be conceited but we're told that all the time. We are that couple who is making out no matter where we are restaurant, night clubs, house parties. No matter where we are we are kissing each other all the time. And we are both in our late 20's, we are not teenagers. lol We are the couple people will say " hey get a room!". But since he has been home for the past two months (which is when i discovered he has Combat PTSD) the affection and the making out hasnt changed. He is still very into me. We get along great. When he is not in his lows we do talk about everything, even the war. But when it comes to us having sex, he always wants it, he always initates it but when it happens he's been feeling really guilty. Either right before we start when were both undress ( I hope this is not too much info) he almost always stops and say " this is wrong we shouldnt be doing this" when I ask him why all he can say is " i dont know, I just feel guilty". Before I knew he had PTSD I thought he had another woman and he felt guilty because he was cheating. I flat out asked him " Guilty? are you cheating on someone by us making love? what do you mean by you feel guilty?" He just kept saying he doesnt know.
Then there are times right during us being intimate he will suddenly stop and say, No we should stop. I asked why he says " i dont know.. Maybe I want to marry you, maybe i want you to have my kids." I'm wondering if he stops because during us being intimate he feels alot of emotions he cant figure out? He tells me he loves making love to me, maybe way too much and thats why we shouldnt. It doesnt happen every single time but it happens often where he wants to stop because he feels guilty. Someone please explain this part of PTSD because he sure cant and I do understand it. And if indeed it has something to do with his PTSD, why does he constantly initiate it?!
Should I be the one to stop him when he starts? By the way thats hard to do. We are very much in love and into each other. As a matter of fact whenever he goes away for a couple of days and I do text him and say " hey are you coming over later to watch a movie?' He will say no he cant come over because he knows were not gonna watch a movie. He says he knows when he sees me that he is going to want to be intimate. And that he is trying to avoid that from happening.
So Let me tell you guys what I am interpreting from what he is telling me:
He loves me, Thinks I will be his wife one day, loves making love to me but doesnt want to because we shouldnt do that because he feels guilty for a reason he is unsure of. Its hard for us to have quality time because he is distracted by being turned on by me..
Okay, I dont want to make it seem like our relationship is based on this. Out of the two years I've known my marine. The majority of our relationship was over the phone because he was staioned in another state and would only come home on Federal Holidays. The last two months is the most I have ever seen him face to face in two years. I dont mind having a realtionship without sex until we get married. But I am confused as to why he loves sex so much but then backs out everytime. How does feeling guilt during sex relate to his combat ptsd??
