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Looking for advice and experience about EMDR therapist for CPTSD

It is complex trauma after all.
There are different EMDR protocols / certifications for trauma & complex trauma.

Does this person HAVE the higher certification levels & specialized training?

To read more on the differences I would recommend heading over to the EMDR institute it’s durn self, & read about the different levels, certs, etc.; so that you’re conversant enough to be able to query your therapist / other therapists you may interview. I’ve literally interviewed Ts who got their certification 20+ years ago, have done zero continuing ed, so didn’t even get the FIRST double split (from only one level of cert to 2 levels), much less the second, are are clueless about this third round with specialized training for specific trauma types, ages, disorders, etc. Only someone with NO ongoing ed in EMDR would attempt to say there’s only 1 certification. Only someone with limited/outdated continuing ed would claim there’s only 2 certs. <<< In my experience interviewing? About 80% of EMDR certified therapists fall into that category. They got their cert back when they were in school, along with all their other certs, and haven’t kept current.

Even therapists with HEFTY governing bodies (LCSWs, PsyDs, etc.) who are required XYZ number of continuing ed credits, per ABC years… or lose their licensure? It’s their own individual choice HOW & WHERE to get those credits. Some badass practitioners have simply chosen elsewhere to stay current. The slugs, that exist in every profession, meanwhile will game the system with “attuning yourself to your power animal” in Fiji, “underwater basket weaving” in Vegas, “ETOH & Other Solutions” in Carnivale, etc., etc., etc.. So they keep their license whilst getting a tax break to go party. Most badass therapists? WILL do one of those silly things, at least once or thrice a career of decades, because their actual continuing ed doesn’t count. Or their kid is getting married in Fiji & they’re covering for another practionerer whose spouse is dying, so they’re working 80hr weeks & can’t meet a real thing. So it’s not like anyone who ever games the rules is a terrible therapist. BUT??? That’s the rare thing. Good people cheat, for good reasons. Crappy people cheat, as baseline. NEITHER will be up on the current thing… this year. Crappy people never will. Good people will… next year. Maybe. IF AND ONLY IF they haven’t chosen to update themselves in another area of their specialty. But their catching up next year, doesn’t help you/me/anyone now.

The overwhelming majority of therapists??? DO NOT have hefty governing bodies. Only a veeeeery small minority of therapists get their masters & doctorates & are licensed by hefty orgs. Even there (as above), there are the slugs. BELOW there? Are people hanging a shingle with as little as a $30 fee for their state-issued-license, religious exempt, 30-90day cert., etc.. At the upper end of that scale??? 3 months, compared with a doctorate + supervision of 8-12 YEARS. <<< ALL can call themselves “therapists”. As the people hiring them? It’s up to us to both check their CV, and what they’re current on.

It’s like going to a doctor. Are they a doctor??? Or an EMT? If a doctor, are they a cardiologist? A cardiac surgeon? Because even an EMT (a 3mo degree) can give you good advice about your heart. But? If you need a heart surgeon, you don’t wanna be seeing a dermatologist, GP, or EMT. You want someone who specializes in what you need, when you need it. Unless? War. Zombies. Whatever. Then? Anything is better than nothing. But in normal life? You don’t want someone who spent 3 months, 20 years ago. You want someone who spent 10+ years, and has spent the past 20 keeping current.
 
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I don't think that was a skill or training issue. She's got all the recent certification needed, even in dissociative disorders, complex trauma and trans-generational trauma. That's what reassured me at first. I see very good reviews too so I was starting to think I'm the problem.
 
Many people who do EDMR get retraumatised from the memories so it's normal to feel just as bad as before.

If you want some empathy from your therapist, maybe just ask cause it makes more sense to have symptoms 'fit in a box's in a way and they're not there as a caregiver ...
I spent 30 plus years with therapists that couldn't get past their clinical neutrality, and never realized that I needed someone that I could fully trust with my feelings. Once I did, everything began to fall into place. My 2 cents -- find a therapist that you gel with. I went undiagnosed for all those years because I was too afraid of opening up.
 
I spent 30 plus years with therapists that couldn't get past their clinical neutrality, and never realized that I needed someone that I could fully trust with my feelings. Once I did, everything began to fall into place. My 2 cents -- find a therapist that you gel with. I went undiagnosed for all those years because I was too afraid of opening up.
I'm not trying to find one to have control over me, EVER!

I was literally replying to the OP about what I've heard from other people and it will never be about me!
 
I have been unofficially diagnosed with CPTSD, depression, anxiety and caregiver fatigue syndrome multiple times each. I had an EMDR technician who was pretty much useless, and an actual therapist who was trained on EMDR. He did EMDR with me *and* cognitive behavior therapy to help me deal with cognitive distortions and maladaptive core beliefs. I ended up working with him for about 3 years.

I was lucky to find a therapist I truly connected with. It's hard.

I think it's also important to realize that if your therapist doesn't push you to face things you don't want to face you, in most cases, won't be able to make true progress. It's also important to realize that a lot of the time you WILL feel worse before you feel better. That's very scary.

Hope that helped. I don't really have aything else to add.
 
A good therapist will recognize and grasp the 'schematics' of your issues and will let you go at your own pace. For me, it was also finding someone who was well versed in attachment theory and who was also open to a meaningful human relationship within the boundaries of a professional and clinical setting- i.e.-it is a 'real' connection, but within the therapeutic relationship.

Also for me, I needed someone who focussed on trauma and EMDR, had been in practice for a good amount of time but not too long so as to be nearing the end of their curiosity and energy in the work. I lucked out really. Only a 45 minute drive too.

I am wary of those who have EMDR as part of a 'tool kit' of approaches. Not that they are necessarily bad therapists, I just know that early trauma is kind of a specialist thing and wanted someone who had decided to focus on that.

CPTSD from birth here. Been a long time healing. mid 50's now. Progress is faster now after many attempts. My only message from all I've learned is never give up and keep looking after yourself.

Good luck with it all.
 

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