Looks like I've lost yet another friend

[Punky143]

It doesn't matter why, but this is an ongoing trend my entire life. Making friends is the easy part but have failed to keep any. Right now, I have 0 interest in outside relationships. I can be the best friend there is, and then something happens. Maybe they trigger me or I get walked over or the inability to manage time at all and always feel rushed. Long story but pretty depressed and frustrated

 

[UnKnown-Self]

I'm so sorry @Punky143. I've struggled with it my whole life, still do and I'm 60.
I will tell you what I finally learned.
The most important relationship I have is with myself. I never took the time to decide who I want to be, and what that means.
I never took the time to develop as a person I like and respect.
I worked so many years avoiding the thought of my body. My foundation was all lies. A new one needs to be built.
My inner critics aren't cooperating.
It is very hard to challenge beliefs accepted not only as truth but a kind of law. It can be done.

I only share this because, I hope you become your own best friend and draw the same kind of people to you.

 

[Punky143]

I'm so sorry @Punky143. I've struggled with it my whole life, still do and I'm 60.
I will tell you what I finally learned.
The most important relationship I have is with myself. I never took the time to decide who I want to be, and what that means.
I never took the time to develop as a person I like and respect.
I worked so many years avoiding the thought of my body. My foundation was all lies. A new one needs to be built.
My inner critics aren't cooperating.
It is very hard to challenge beliefs accepted not only as truth but a kind of law. It can be done.

I only share this because, I hope you become your own best friend and draw the same kind of people to you.

Thank you so much

 

[Justmehere]

When I was 18, a therapist told me that for most people, most friendships won’t be life long. They come into our lives for a season, and then one or the other moves on.

I don’t know if I agree or not, but, they had a point. Still hurts when things fall apart, but I try to not use that possibly as a reason to not keep trying.

Most of all, I’m sorry you lost a friend. :hug: