I can relate, between the ages of 15 and 20 myself and my mum lived next door to a family who started banging on our walls and would do DIY at any time of the day - early morning, night time. The woman had tried to befriend my mum but my mun being wary of her was polite but didn't get too friendly. It was after that, that it started up. The man in my opinion had mental health issues, it was mainly him making the noises and he would park his car in front of our pathway so we couldn't get out. Before this me and my mum were very outgoing and had visitors but then we gradually stopped having visitors and as the neighbours started up the noise we didn't want to invite people in. They would bang on the walls when my female friends were visiting but my male relative or a male electrician or whatever, well as you can guess the neighbours were silent. This was in the years before my trauma but I found this experience unbearable and isolating. Even my dog suffered, she was quite obviously distressed by the noise. We moved in the end, they were very crafty. Apparently they did the same thing to the next family who moved in (also a single parent family). We always believed they wanted us out so they could buy our property.
Then my trauma happened. Nothing to do with noise, it was sexual assault but brought up those same feelings of isolation and being taken advantage of.
Now I live in a ground floor appartment and the man who lives above me has sex very loudly. It often wakes me up and times when I can't sleep are worse because I try to block it out but it is so loud that I can't sleep. He used to have random people going to his appartment but now has one regular woman which in a way is worse because it is now a daily thing. He is aggressive and I have heard him yell at the woman and really put her down. He goes on for hours with the 'bedroom noise' and it is very triggering. Especially because it sounds angry and degrading not loving and romantic. I feel that it is such an awkward thing to complain about that I have just blocked it out for 3 years.
The key, in your situation is to talk to other neighbours and see what they say. There is strength in numbers. Unfortunately with certain types of noise nuisance (when it is deliberate and calculated) moving away is the best thing to do. If the neighbour is genuinely careless and oblivious, talking to other neighbours and filing a complaint is a good option. You have a right to peace and quiet in your home and should not be made to feel uncomfortable. The main thing is this is a trigger so you need to put your health first. You could move to a place which is far more suitable, quiet and homely. Moving is stressful but can be worth it and being able to grow and get better in peace is much better than having to put up with this. You can try to speak to neighbours and complain anonymously until you find a new home. Speaking up is good and remember you are doing this for your health and wellbeing :) Good luck
