Male Influence Into Forum Improving IMHO

[linasmom]

Cactus Jack,

That had nothing to do with her gender. "Getting IT" implies that someone doesn't "understand". Both sexes are capable of understanding at the same levels.

Anthony,

Funny, I liked your scientific approach far more than your original post. And, I agree with that post. No foul, no harm. (or is it the other way around?!)

Anyway, I definitely wasn't reading in to anything, my initial reaction was to take offense, but my head quickly took over. Which is why I was almost offended.

Best,
Rachel

 

[Awakening]

I guess for me I must be the exception.
I am very logical, and not emotional. Been called cold-hearted.
My husband cries at commercials, I can't understand it.
Never been the gossip confide to girlfriends type.
Interesting enough, I also have higher then normal testosterone levels.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Female Therapists

I have had far more luck with male counselors. The last woman played head games with me and when I tried to find out why or the purpose or what have you, she told me "I'll let you think about it until our next session". Infuriating. Succeeded in accomplishing absolutely nothing.

I agree with Nicolette,

If your T came right out and told you then it might as well went in one ear and out the other. If you think about it, you find it "on your own" and that is more rewarding then for some one to tell you.

Also, she may know that it would make you mad and it was not a head game she was playing but a way to help you understand yourself.

I've had about 12-15 therapists in the course of my PTSD both male and female and not one played any head games with me. They have challanged me, which is different than playing head games.

Take care
Tammy

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Thanks Anthony,

I think the reason most men do this is because they fear other males will see them as weak.

Actually, the man who can verbalize his problems is much stronger IMO than the so called tough ones, who 'think' they can handle everything on their own. For some it takes a lot of courage to admit they need help and that makes them stronger, not weak.

Tammy

 

[Deleted member 541]

Oh yea, I just "Love" the men who think they can handle everything on there own..... Ever driven with one of them??? Gotten lost and spent hours driving in circles because the will NOT stop and ask directions........

I would love the logical, and sensitive one to find me. I figure that he is either dead or married, and I am out of luck!!!!!!

 

[reallydown]

No worries Anthony...though I do not agree...You can be a male and perform the gender typically ascribed (only because we have been socialised that way) to a female and vice versa. You have boys, who, before their parents shove cars etc. into their hands may find dolls more fascinating and play with them...or, girls play with cars etc...these elements of gender are learned, not inherent, and thus the separation of sex and gender.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

I believe woman mostly think on the right brain hemisphere, and men think mostly on the left. Also the limbic system or emotional brain tends to be bigger in females and that is why they tend to be the primary care givers to children. These elements of gender are inherited.

Men have more brain cell numbers and woman have a greater number of cell connections than men.

Gender is subjective, and sex is biological. But this starts turning into semantics. IMO

Tammy

 

[ruddy]

Hmm, I wonder? Are the women on this forum more emotional than the men? Reread the Iraq thread (if you've got the stomach for it). Is it more/less emotion or different emotions and ways of expressing them?

 

[Andre]

Whatever the differences in gender and sex and whatever personality variations exist, having a variety makes the forum better by making it more accessible than if one group always dominated... say middle aged women. If that, then what about the macho vets? But, if too many macho vets what about abuse or assault, or violence, or any and every other situation. Variety is the key to letting everyone participate here. A while ago I felt out pretty out of place as almost every thread I saw only women wrote in. Now that lots of other men are more active again perhaps it is going the other way and some of the women may feel out of place. Hopefully less so now, for both genders. This is not just a gender problem though. Its more that divisions exist and the forum sometimes acts as a bridge between them and at other times as a wall. As an atheist sometimes seeing a lot of religious threads makes me back off too. I don't mean to say no one should post anything or try to be PC balanced in what they post, just that these forces are operating here. This is a vague concept though, and identifying it with something readily observed like the gender division makes it a little easier to understand.

 

[anthony]

Extremely well expressed Tammy... the brain is a function that really displaces sexes, and you hit it on the head. Both brain sides actually have specific function attributes... again, this is viewed as the "majority" basis and is certainly not the "blanket approach" that some may confuse towards themselves.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Anthony,

I "hit it on the head". I'm sure there was no pun intended LOL

Tammy

 

[Deleted member 487]

So in reality it's the women that are the true "right-wingers"? :occasion: