Marriage Ending, Need To Get Healthy, Looking For Support

[Tifanee]

Ericaboo - You should reread your first few posts and the last two posts. You are in a better frame of mind already, keep thinking about your needs:) . I have a motto I've lived by for years that sums up what you said in your last post...I can't change someone's behavior, but I can change my response to it. If we keep working on ourselves, then the people who are in our lives are in compliment to who we are. You each have your own journey, which might include each other or not. Either way, with or without him, you will be in a better place and this relationship will be a part of your journey.

Hugs and positivity are sent your way everyday!

 

[Srain]

Well put Tifanee.

 

[Eleanor]

You are in my prayers tonight ericaboo - Sending healing energy to you and your husband.

Sometimes it takes the pressure off me a little if I don't try to figure out the "right" thing to do, but instead focus on what my "best" choice is given the realities I cannot control, my options within those realities and the resources I actually have to hand. It helps me be more gentle with myself, and beat myself up less for not being perfect. It sounds like you are doing that, which is really the best any of us can reasonably do.

 

[ericaboo]

The choice has now been taken from me - he told me in marriage counseling today. I'm moving out - that's what he wants.

I don't know how to feel, but it's very strange.

 

[^^FlyingSolo^^]

(((Erica))) I'm sorry to hear this.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Erica, I am sorry this is happening to you. Sending you healing energy fot the days ahead. Hugs and tears.

 

[Nicolette]

The choice has now been taken from me - he told me in marriage counseling today. I'm moving out - that's what he wants.

I'm sorry Ab's but also don't get railroaded.... don't move out if he doesn't have the right to make you until you find somewhere safe. I am sure he was the one who didn't want you to go when you were ready to..... please be careful as I fear you are being manipulated. ((( Hugs )))

 

[ericaboo]

I am sure he was the one who didn't want you to go when you were ready to..... please be careful as I fear you are being manipulated.

So true... but I guess, better to have him think it's his idea... maybe that's safer. That's all I can think right now. I just have to take it one day at a time. I feel like it's difficult to stay in this house one more day, but I will now have to get my leaving plan into action while he's still acting "nice."

I'm going to see the new, (hopefully), landlord first thing tomorrow morning and see how quick I can get out of here. I don't understand the manipulation, but something's not right, and it's time to go.

 

[Srain]

((((((((((((((Erica)))))))))))))))))
Thinking of you,
Rain

 

[piratelady]

I hope your meeting with the potential new landlord goes well. If you think about it, H's timing couldn't have been better, since this apartment is available now. Remember - move your sentimental things first..don't leave any fishing poles behind. ((Hugs)) I'm here if you need to talk.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

(((Erica))) Please take gentle care of yourself as you go through this transitional experience. I am wishing you the very best, wish I could help you pack. I hope it is a smooth transiton as possible. Hugs and prayers if you want them.

 

[Eleanor]

Sending thoughts of a smooth and calm move, and lovely restorative unpacking into you new home of peace and healing....