General Memorial day

[anon1234]

He has been in isolation for the couple of weeks leading up to Memorial Day (combat vet). I have reached out a few times to see how he is, but no response. It's understandable considering some of the things that have happened to him.

Today (Memorial Day) I was torn between 1) wanting to message him to say I'm thinking of him and 2) leaving him alone because it may be a trigger.

In the end, I decided not to make contact because I didn't want to sound condescending or be triggering. I hope I did the right thing.

 

[EveHarrington]

It sounds like you did the right thing.

Maybe text later this week, something light?

 

[Sighs]

I feel for you. I go through it a month earlier as Anzac Day (our version of Memorial Day) is on 24 April. Its hell on wheels every year.

 

[Sweetpea76]

I leave mine to it... Memorial Day and Veterans Day suck. He'll come out of it in a week or so once all of it settles down.

 

[Freida]

I don't usually react to memorial day but this year it hit me like a freight train. I don't know why. it was pretty ugly
I reached out to a couple battle buddies, and vented on here, but didn't want contact with my real life supporters. It would require to much explaining to them
I'm getting better today so a text saying "how ya feeling" would be good. Just don't ask me to talk about how I feel.

 

[Virtues]

Memorial Day is a day full of life and energy in my home. The only way I know how to honor my fallen brothers is to carry on and enjoy my family. It would discredit their ultimate sacrifice and bring upon them great dishonor if I laid around mourning for them wallowing in my own self pity. It was them that will never know the feel of American soil under their feet again, not I. Don't get me wrong it is a day of remembrance and honor and respect, but in a dignified way not in an <I'm going to isolate and drink until I can't see straight> kind of way. I'm not claiming to be better than the next person (we each deal with loss in our own way) and I'm not saying I don't have my tough days, but Memorial Day is a day that reminds me that my life isn't as tough as it could have been. My family could be struggling without a dad, without a husband, by the grace of God we are lucky to have each other. I may be wounded but I made it home. You carried your buddy when he was wounded, you carried your buddy when they draped a flag across his coffin, now carry his memory with honor, dignity, and respect. Don't give up on him now. I will do more than mourn for him; I will live for him, so he shall not have died in vain.

 

[anon1234]

Thanks all for your input. I'm reassured that I did the right thing.

 

[Pippi427]

He has been in isolation for the couple of weeks leading up to Memorial Day (combat vet). I have reach...

Mine did the day before and the day of. I just let him know I loved him and would feed him if he was hungry. He did not respond for a few days, but did catch up with me that Tuesday. It's fine to let them be if they need space. I think they know better as soldiers how to support one another better than we do on these days. Just my 2 cents.