Most Valuable Lessons

[Loloma]

It has taken me most of my life to stop grieving my losses. To stop living in the past, holding on to bitterness, hurt and anger at those that pained me so deeply.

Being stuck in the past stopped me appreciating what was in front of me. I am myself and not a reflection of someone else. The people from my past living and dead do not control my life and my way of thinking.

Each day is a new day and will be better than yesterday. I have learnt that I cannot change the past, I can only make my future better. Letting go and moving on is the best thing I have done for myself.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Learning not to talk about my ptsd with just anyone. Having better boundries. Taking better care of myself. I am finally learning how to be healthy.

 

[Tanishq]

I watched a hindi movie. It's about learning, perhaps they are pointing towards life learning lesson.

"We all need to understand. We don't need to run to become competitive, we have to go after excellence. Success will follow you automatically."

If anyone who understands this, can help me in fine tuning it.

 

[Privateer]

"Cover from view is not necessarily cover from fire".

Yeah.

More seriously:

"You can't save them all".

 

[Tanishq]

"Cover from view is not necessarily cover from fire".

"You can't save them all".

I can't understand what does this mean? Can you please explain it to me?

 

[Whitneys story]

@Jaret, It is my opinion that human nature, past programing leads us to co-dependancy. The need to help others. While denying ourselves the same compassion.

In reality we need to learn to care for self before we can help another. There are always going to be people who don't want help.

 

[Tanishq]

@Jaret, It is my opinion that human nature, past programing leads us to co-dependancy. The need to help others. While denying ourselves the same compassion.

Hmmm... Whitney. I always thought of this. Why we all can't live together. I call it inter-dependency. I saw many people claiming that they did something on their own without any kind of help. They don't thank the people who took part in their life passively. I don't like/believe in this.

No one achieves alone. That's what I feel. Someone will be there, supporting you always.

Thank you for sharing your thought Whitney. I appreciate your insight.

 

[Privateer]

I can't understand what does this mean? Can you please explain it to me?

The first one means that just because people can't see through something it doesn't mean they can't shoot through it.

The second one...well, I work in search and rescue these days and my unwillingness to accept that you can't save everybody is part of how I ended up in the state I'm in.

My post wasn't intended as a response to yours, if that's what you were wondering?

 

[Tanishq]

My post wasn't intended as a response to yours, if that's what you were wondering?

No. I knew it is different sharing from you, not directed at me and when I read your post, it "sounded". I liked it and got interested to know what does it mean.

It's very nice sharing from you. Appreciate it. :)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I learned how to ask and reach out for help when I need it. I realized I am human and limited. It makes such a huge difference to ask for help and get it.

 

[Whitneys story]

Childhood is what you spend the rest of your life trying to overcome! From the movie Hope Floats with Sandra Bullock

 

[goingonhope]

Here is both a valuable and personal, painful life lesson.

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