My Biggest Argument......

[Anna5]

By the way I do have an English tutor and other resorces. I DO NOT want someone to do my homework for me. My my stress level increases I become more impolsive and more fearful. Also more sensetive

 

[Anna5]

By the way when I did the Student with PTSD thing. Not just asking people about themeselves, I was sharing things about myself. In the proccess it opened up my eyes that I am not alone with my stuggle of going to school with PTSD. It was in a way comforting to me. That there are people who do finish college with a degree, so I know I can do it to. I just keep fighting to move forward, overcoming the obstacles in my life.

 

[Anna5]

Apologies

I would also like to apologize for the big scene, I was just upset and overreacted. I said a few things in a couple of posts that I shouldn't have. I now regrete typing some of the things I did. Such as capitalizing sentences, which is considered yelling. If I could I would take out this sentence in another post, "I guess I will go somewhere else for support." I do have more then one support system, which includes this site. I am still trying to find my place on this site. Also the sentence above my essay, "Courage to Move Forward." that I bolded..which was unnessary and I didn't mean it. When it should have been focused on the paper. Which I was sharing. Not for feedback but for inspiration. One important thing I have learned is don't overreact. Once it is posted and past the point of editing, it out there for anyone to read and missinterprete.

 

[Anna5]

Anna it is not our responsibility to pick the subjects for you. I'm sorry but if you want input on a paper you will have to have picked the subject ahead of time and done your own research on it first. We do not have all the answers for you.

bec

By the way the paper has not been assigned yet. I have an English Tutor and other resourses to help me. I should not have brought it up on this site. I don't expect people to have the answers. Which was a big mistake and I have regreted it ever since posting this topic.

 

[Anna5]

I guess it is for the best that I will wait until the semester is over before coming back to this site, I have already made such a mess. When I am not under so much stress and can think clearly. Also when the holidays are over with. I will come back, only when I can contribute better on this site then I have. I do apperciate few people who have been supportive of me, and I will not forget it. I wish everybody a good holiday session.

 

[Awakening]

Hi Anna,
Actually I don't see you as trying to get help on your homework.
I see someone very scared.
But also, I think your expectations might be not what this site is - in that we are all sufferers, so in the same boat as yourself.
If you want to leave you can.
But instead of a rash decision maybe hang about looking around at least.
Take care of yourself.

 

[Deleted member 487]

What I was seeing was someone that appeared to me to be more interested in a paper than in counseling. Ok, I'm not very attentive to everyone's posts, that I'll admit to. And there can very well be posts that I missed. If so, and if I'm wrong in my assumption, my sincere apologies.

The problem I think that exists is we can help each other out, as we are all experiencing the same generalized problem- PTSD. But we cannot be expected to decipher other psychological issues because, quite frankly, we're not professionals.

Metaphorically, our ship sunk and we're all in life jackets, set afloat in the ocean. We can help each other, and we can come up with ideas that can help each other, but we can't give your airplane a tune-up.

 

[Seeking_Nirvana]

Anna,
Don't leave, stick it out. I think a major symptom of PTSD is running from things that don't feel comfortable. If you feel unwelcomed here then you fit in with about 25% of the current members.

I know I didn't feel welcomed when I first came, and I'm sure not everyone here likes me, but I learn a lot here and that is what counts. It's not about if anyone wants you here, it's about if you want to be here and learn to get well.

I read your paper you sent me by PM and it was good. I wasn't sure why you sent it though. Did you want feedback or help? I took a lot of writing classes and a creative writing class in college so I can give you some feed back if you allow PMs

Peace
Tammy

 

[Deleted member 93]

OK, we often have members saying I am leaving. Some do, some do not and I would suggest do your best at hearing it said many times over. Their choice if they want to be here to work on PTSD or not, as you won't until you are at the do or die phase. But as long as a member is in moderation PMing will not function. Being told opinions and view points does not make one unwelcome. Not everyone agrees. Thankfully! Besides, isn't that the point of posting on a forum? Other opinions and points of view?

 

[Anna5]

Unfortantly, Seeking_Nirvana, I am not able to PM right now even though I could use your help. I lost the privalage last week.

Last week my stress level was sky high over the evaluation paper last week, when I get that way I tend to more fearful and sensitive. I don't like it when I go into a dissociative state (besides PTSD, I am fragmented-"When a fragment is functing for you, you may feel as though someone has "taken over" your body and you have no control over yourself; however, you are still aware of what is going on around you.") <--It is very scary, when it happens. I have awareness, but not full control yet.

I did get back my evaluation paper today with comments from the instructor saying that I am on the right track, but it really needs specific illustrations to support the judgment. So my stress/anxiety has been reduced knowing I am on the right track. I feel relaxed and connected, also tired.

It took me four years to get up courage to take another English class after what happened when I took the last two English class. It has been taking all my energy to get these papers done and keep my stress level down as much as possible. On top of everything the holidays are coming up. I am focusing on my emotional, physical health and my school work. Right now everything inolves school.

I am a senior, after this semester I have 6 more classes to go. I have a cum gpa of 3.8 (not braging). I am not smart, but I work hard for my grade. My weakest area is my communication both verbal and written. Which I am working on. I have gone farther in college then both my parents combined, which is an accomplishment. I will also be the first one to get a degree. Each semester I seem to face a new obstacle in my life. This semester, I have even more I am faced with. I am dealing with everything the best way I know how.




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[Seeking_Nirvana]

To leave or not to leave

I just felt that maybe encouragement would help her stick around. I would hate to see some one leave now, and come back two years later worse off because they didn't stay and seek help.

Not encouraging some one to stay when they are vulnerable and telling them not to let the door hit them in the @ss isn't going to prevent more trauma from happening. If one stays and is encouraged, and has the help of the care takers here then there is a good chance they may not be traumatized again.

I would much rather beg some one to stay if I thought it would help them, as opposed to saying "whatever" and them coming back later with 5 more traumas to deal with. But maybe I'm a sucker like that?????

I imagine it gets frustrating when some one says they are leaving, and I've seen it twice in the short time I've been here.

Peace
Tammy

OK, we often have members saying I am leaving. Some do, some do not and I would suggest do your best at hearing it said many times over. Their choice if they want to be here to work on PTSD or not, as you won't until you are at the do or die phase. But as long as a member is in moderation PMing will not function. Being told opinions and view points does not make one unwelcome. Not everyone agrees. Thankfully! Besides, isn't that the point of posting on a forum? Other opinions and points of view?

 

[becvan]

Tammy: Please read this thread: [DLMURL]http://www.ptsdforum.org/thread5113.html[/DLMURL]

Our policy on members leaving stands. If you want to beg members to stay, you may do so. However we will not put up with numerous posts saying they are leaving. It riles up members and is a form of manipulation to get other people to say what they want to hear. We are not here for that.

Also, what does leaving this forum have to do with preventing or causing further trauma? Trauma is an abnormal event in one's life. Such as death, witnessing death, rape etc.. leaving a forum is not traumatic.

bec