My Body's Waking Up.

[KwanYingirl]

This is an SOS. Since I started having Reiki I am feeling my pelvis and reliving being raped. I haven't eaten or slept in two days. Advice please?

 

[y5L]

I'm sorry you're reliving this.

What helps me most when my body is remembering things is to remember that regardless of what I'm feeling, it's NOT happening again. That I'm safe.

Then I'll do a few grounding things like holding on to an ice cube or a rock, describing my surroundings, singing a song, giving someone a hug, having a snack, or changing into a different outfit.

I hope you are able to find something (or a combination of things) that works for you!

 

[KwanYingirl]

So when we have a body memory we time travel and that's when we need to get grounded? Get back to June 5, 2014? I just lost two days. Thanks for the suggestions. My T is trying to guide me towards visualizing a safe place. Right now I can't make an image of me in my mind.

 

[Kas_Can_Fly]

Maybe try just focussing on the things around you or perhaps where you'd most like to be - somewhere safe - I have two, my friends sofa and the Bunker from Supernatural (an impenetrable underground and luxurious safe-haven)!

Try spotting 5 (or more) colours, what can you smell, feel 5 different textures around you, what can you hear, focus on your favourite flavour and imagine you are eating it. If you are able to move get a strong flavour to help - lemon, orange, a teaspoon of ketchup, cinammon, mint gum (and/or brush your teeth), make sure it's a strong flavour.

Try hugging a soft toy or a pillow, treat yourself like a scared child, do anything and everything you need to to try and feel a bit safer, warmer and more comfortable.

Try music or if that's too much maybe ambient sounds - like rain, birdsong or the sound of a tumbledryer - whatever is peaceful to you.

Good luck :hug:

 

[Hashi]

Are you still having Reiki? Is this finished, or at least on hold?

Is your Reiki therapist experienced in trauma, and working to minimise you getting overwhelmed by trauma emergence?

I've had an energy/somatic therapy, and I have a tendency to very strong body memories. My first two questions have to be the two above.

My immediate response is to make sure you pause the Reiki. Then to look at your own defences and increase these if needed. I'm not sure what your defences are.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Wonderful advice. I should learn to use my five senses to redirect my thoughts to the here and now. Yes I still have Reiki and my practitioner is experienced with trauma survivors. I have had to ask her to stop if I get a flashback. She is very calming and it really calms me down to be around her. This is the seismic shift that my T has been leading me to. I absolutely have to reclaim my body instead of being self destructive to it. I'm on board with that but it is just so helpful to read all the great ideas you all have to cope in healthy, life affirming ways. I'm really glad I finally joined.[DOUBLEPOST=1402011177,1402010991][/DOUBLEPOST]I'm going to search the site for threads on grounding