My Dad Is Faking Ptsd For Higher Benefits; Im Upset

[mary1979]

Lol typical.

Acts like you are unreasonable for having issues and minimises you and then prances around like he's so hard done by and waves that in your face..

Yeah, id be a bit pissed off, maybe you should say 'hey dad, ptsd is it? Try living with that from birth and see how you do'
You gotta vent this properly Lost.
Then let it go.

These people have never validated your feelings, they wont start now.

Also, in my experience PTSD is the 'go to' diagnoses when someone's experienced trauma and says they aren't doing well.
They slapped me with it when I didn't fit properly in any other option.
Kinda felt like I wasn't messed up enough for any of the others so ptsd would do.

 

[EveHarrington]

I understand why you're so upset. He has invalidated you for years and now suddenly pops up with a potential PTSD diagnosis. (Which is even more suspect because in the context of getting money for a disability rating.)

Nobody can determine the internal state of another, however I'd be suspicious if someone I was living with suddenly came up with this diagnosis of themselves and there was not a single outward sign. We tend to not hide things in our homes and there's the philosophical question of how can it be considered a "disorder" if there is no----disorder? (Random nightmares occasionally? Very normal.)

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Also, in my experience PTSD is the 'go to' diagnoses when someone's experienced trauma and says they aren't doing well.
They slapped me with it when I didn't fit properly in any other option.

Ive heard that a lot here. My quick diagnosis was BPD but that was super over obvious. It took me another few yrs to get doagnosed PTSD and then I faught that and it took my therapist going one by one symthom with me and say "ok i have that" for me to accept it.

I do feel like its a go to for the military and, for my dad at least, the VA almost accepts anything. He asked his Dr once "whats the chance that all of this is caused by Agent Orange" and the Dr said "ZERO" but he has 50% disabilty anyway.

Im def an advocate of taking care of our military (which every country you are in) as these folks put their life on the line for us, for our saftey...the least we can do is take care of their needs. But then there are false, fraud like stuff too.

But like @ladee said, I cant let his actions derail me. I think a lot of my resentment is showing here and so maybe its like 'im here in your face, now you gotta deal with me' sort of thing.