Supporter My Ex-army Son-in-law Has Just Taken A Major Overdose And I Don't Know What To Do For The Best.

[Nema]

I am sitting here reeling from the fact that my lovely son-in-law has just made the decision to try and take his life. He has a wife and two sons that adore him but he is lost in his dark place...what do we do?

 

[Deleted member 12723]

hi, I do not know what you can do. Try to get him to a hospital and admit him? This is all I can think of. I am so glad that he did not suceed. That is the good news. Surround him with your loving support.Try to talk him into going in for some therapy and mabe medications. I hope someone will come around who has experience with this experience and better advise you. I am sorry you are going through this.

 

[Abstract]

Oh I am so sorry Nema.

Maybe you can share more about the situation and what help he has had in the past. I hope this may be a turning point for him and that it precipitates healing and enables him to get help.

 

[p-no]

Welcome to the forum, Nema. I hope you will find support here, for your son-in-law and your family.

 

[Nema]

I am grateful for any advice, help I can get at this stage and yes, maybe this is a turning point. Currently I am paddling in mud!

 

[KP the nut]

Hi Nema and welcome to the forum.

Please check out the supporters section and read the articles both there and across the forum, especially the threads with the sticky pins.

Your Son-in-law doesn't know it, but he is lucky to have good family support. However as supporters remember to take care of yourselves as well.

Wishing you peace.

 

[Pinkcake]

I really hope it is his turning point too! I have had a family member commit suicide and I just cannot imagine the inner turmoil that one faces when they feel that it is their only option. I've never been there and I hope not to ever be at that point. Your son-in-law will be in my thoughts.

 

[Whitneys story]

Hi Nema, Welcome to the forum. You will find some articles on the home page which are extremely good for understanding.

Educating yourself and family members is a great start. At this point it is the unknown fear, learn all you can to support your daughter as the supporter and SIL as the sufferer.

It takes time, I am sorry for all of you. I wish you success with the journey.

 

[Anglesachse]

Hi Nema.

Being Ex Brit Military and having tried to take my own life, I feel for you.

I gaurantee he wants, help and he knows it, but he will not accept it.
He knows something is wrong, but doesn`t know what.
Knows he needs to do something, but has no idea where or how to start.

Would I be correct in assuming he has seen combat? either way.

You need to help him, even if he resists. Get the local Law involved and get him admitted to a secure clinic, even if it means cuffing him hand and foot, and straping him to the stretcher to get him there.

Combat Stress or the Royal British Legion should be around to help aswell. Get on the phone and get them involved. The NHS also has a new system set up to help Vets and ensure they are fast tracked to the help they need. (sorry to all you civvies here.)

Help is out there, but you need to do the leg work for him, atleast untill he sees a light at the end of the tunnel

He has allready lost the fire to fight and will turn his pain and suffering against himself. That is unfortunatly what we do. He has lost hope and needs help finding it again.

If he has seen combat, get him onto the sister site:

http://

We are all Vets, who have PTSD (Combat) and a few other ailements, and far to many of us have been where he is. He will get a swift kick in the arse and a tin of "Harden the F*ck up" which he is in need of.

I was where he is. If it hadn`t been for my wife disowning me, and having me committed. I wouldn`t be here today. And I wouldn`t still have a loving wife and son to make life worth living.

 

[Whitneys story]

@angelsache, You should not feel a need to apologize! Thank you for you service and honesty.

PTSD of all things should never be candy coated. Your response and advice are very valuable. I am sorry for why you are here but thankful for your sincerity. Continued strength for your journey.

 

[myvetswife]

Welcome Nema,

I can only recommend everything angelsachse said.

Been there with my hubby. But there is a light on the end of the tunnel, he just needs help seeing it.

And if it means he has to get forced into a clinic, then don't feel guilty. I would not have my husband with me, if I didn't cut the rope he tried to take his life with and call the cops. And it took something like 8 cops to bring him down and handcuff him.

I send a lot of strength for you, your daughter and your son-in-law to get through this.

 

[Sara1999]

Having attempted suicide myself, I would say that showing him that you love him and want the best for him will be really helpful. My parents didn't know what to say to me when I was in the hospital following 2 separate attempts, but the words were not important. They visited or called every day and let me know that they loved me. They hugged me when I needed it, and gave me space when I needed it. They were not perfect, and sometimes said things that were not so helpful, but I always knew that their intentions were good and that they were trying to help.

I hope your SIL gets the help he needs, and that you take care of yourself throughout this process.