My husband died today

[anthony]

Now you're just having a pity party. Is your husband not dead? Then saying he's dead... how is it insensitive? My brother is dead. Its a fact, not insensitive. You're writing about other peoples death now. You were using this thread in a different area that got attention for you -- now it isn't, you're having a pity party and running off to die, trying to make others feel guilty about it.

I would say, shame on you, to be more accurate. You're trying to now blame others for both fact and your behaviour.

If you left this as only talking about your husband, there would have been no issue. You aren't the first who has a hard time with death, and you won't be the last. Time is the only thing that helps heal the death of a loved one. We're all going to die, its the one thing you can be certain about in this world. When... and how long it takes to grieve, there unknowns.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

(((@Medic72 )))
I am EXTREMELY OFFENDED with Anthony's tactless and insensitive statement. How cruel and downright MEAN with his words!

I am SO SORRY that you were "spoken to" in such a demeaning way!!!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Wow. Like so off topic.

Since we are all now off topic and talking about Anthony's comment, I didn't find speaking truth and fact demeaning. He has been passed away a year. That's the truth. And personally, I would have taken this to my diary way before now as I feel long term processing stuff belongs there. But just my own personal opinion.

But, I re-read his comment about 50 times and found zero wrong with it. Personally. Maybe it's its "face hitting" or whatever as it makes that fact more real but fact nonetheless.

But, yeah, now this is so off topic. I suppose I shouldn't continue off topic discussion but since its now a diary then I guess its ok?

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

Comments could have been made in a kinder way. That's ALL it would have taken to be less harsh. I understand the decision and need to move this thread, but disagree with the verbage used.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

"Your husband died over a year ago" is a fact. It is the statement of a fact. Now if he would of said "you are carrying on a long time, your husband died over a year ago" then that would have been different. But he didn't. I don't even think he meant anything like that or anything else that could have been read into that. I think many read way too much into written word. Way too much!

But anyway, my personal opinions. Not debating or asking anyone to believe as I do. Just stating my own personal opinions on the matter.

 

[anthony]

I am now sticking with my original sentiment on this, closed and placed back into the depression forum. It will now remain closed. It is done and will not be changing.

If the member wishes to start a diary, they can do so by their own choosing.

If they wish to talk about another's death it their life, start a new thread to do so.