Relationship My husband has ptsd and is pushing me away and i'm lost

[Bonnie1991]

Hi!
I know this was posted a while ago but I'm feeling really lost and wondered if anyone else has experienced the same thing. My husband has been out of the army for a few years now. It is clear he is suffering from PTSD but refuses to get help. He blames all of his problems on me and over the years has ended our relationship and come back to me numerous times. He has been off with me and barely talking for the last three nights. I asked him if everything was okay today? He said no we are growing apart. This has come out of no where as only a week ago we were telling eachother how much we love each other. One minute he said he wants to work things out then the next minute he doesn't know. We also have three daughters who as they are getting older I am worried are noticing and are affected but his behaviour. I'm sorry for the lenghty post just feeling lost as have no friends or family. My husband and kids are my life. Beyond devestated.

 

[Sighs]

Hi there!

There is a whole section for those of us supporting people with PTSD. Join as a member - its free.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

I'm just lost at what I'm su

that does make a lot of sense. Well he did tell me that he needs to find...

I'm finding that space sometimes means just that, space... My bf needs space sometimes and I give it to him and I also asked him to let me know when he's in that dark place and what I may need to do at that time. He agreed. Try asking why he may need from you when he's feeling like this, because sometimes it's just space and time. My bf always comes back around after a day or two.

 

[alice in wonderalnd]

I so feel your pain. My boyfriend and I have been together for a few months now and this is starting to happen with us. W...

Reading these posts tear my heart out because i am going through the same thing. Tomorrow's our 5 year anniversary, but have been separated 11 months. He wont have much to do with me or try to talk, just says because if things from his past military, he feels he can't love or be loved but so far nothing about getting a divorce. Its nice to see we aren't alone in our pain. Peace to each of us and strength to hang in there and keep loving our sufferers.

 

[NaeNae75]

Hi!
I know this was posted a while ago but I'm feeling really lost and wondered if anyone else has experienced the...

Yes, I've been riding the roller coaster for over 7.5 years now. I grew up in a family riddled with PTSD including myself, but never saw isolation to this level until him. We do this once or twice a year...it's exhausting.
I'm sorry you're having to go through this, I wish it weren't so common.