My Husband Left Me

[Stickler]

http://info.legalzoom.com/legal-remedy-abandoned-spouse-21424.html

Apparently, in some states choosing to leave you destitute like this when he had a choice not to is a jailable offense.
Plus I'm assuming he took your social security money, meaning that he may be on the hook for that. As for the rest? Anything left sale-able in the house, you sell.

 

[Neverthesame]

Did he take your ID?

 

[Sideways]

F**k that.

I feel pretty friggin useless, because all the crisis contacts I have are Aust'n. For money right now, though, there's got to be similar faith-based crisis support services in the US...anyone?

Womens Shelter may actually be the ticket - the ones here will help out in situations like this, because if they can help you stay in your home, it's a win/win, so maybe don't rule them out just yet.

Sorry I can't help more. Free internet at the library (? do you have that there?) is always going to keep you connected.

 

[Neverthesame]

@Ragdoll Circus I think they do have library internet access, we have it here in Canada, I know that for fact.

 

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@Neverthesame my purse was stolen a while back, I had a California i.d. and couldn't get a Utah i.d. because I didn't have a copy of my birth certificate, it has been a very long process trying to get my birth certificate. Unfortunately, the lack of i.d. has created many issues including not able to get a library card.

I have been so upset I wasn't even thinking, he is going to have to come back at some point for his stuff. He appears to have taken very little. The thing is he doesn't have a cell phone and I have no way to contact him at all. His computer is also here. All I know is he is crashing on a friend from works couch. who's wife interestingly enough also has PTSD.

 

[Fadeaway]

It sucks that it is too late at night to call anyone. Everything is closed.

 

[Neverthesame]

Absolutely. Call the women's shelter, church charities, not even a bad idea to ring up your local municipal police or sheriff's office non-emergency line. See if if anything he has done, or taken is immediately actionable.

They won't get mad at you for calling the non-emergency line. Information is your friend right now.

Besides keeping busy will help keep you calm, (as possible)

Keep breathing, keep breathing. Don't forget how strong you are.

 

[Neverthesame]

To anyone who knows, is it legal if her husband shows up for his stuff, to refuse him entry pending arrival of a police officer or sheriff's deputy?

 

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Thank you, that is what I am trying to do, I was doing ok, but he sent me an e-mail asking me to hug his cat for him. No concern about me just his cat.

I am out of my regular antianxiety, but I do have one clonazepam that I didn't take for my medical procedure the other day so I may take that soon since there is very little I can do tonight.

I am pretty sure I can do that, but I am hoping if he does I can get him to give me enough money to get by.

 

[Sideways]

When I was travelling totally skint, I would settle on a seat outside McDonalds (totally global!) and use their free internet on my phone. As long as I kept my phone charged, I don't think I even needed phone credit...

The point of that is more that there are ways to tide you over that start falling out of the woodwork when you have literally no cash, so don't give up on yourself.

This situation is temporary and, it goes without saying, the people here have your back every step of the way as much as we possibly can.

 

[Neverthesame]

Do whatever you have to to get through this.

We believe in you.

 

[Fadeaway]

Thank you, you guys are the only thing keeping me sane right now. I am still fuming about him asking about his cat. I don't know why that is bothering me so much compared to everything else...