amethist
VIP Member
Hi Lost and Confused
Unfortunately for carers, pushing us away is part and parcel of ptsd suffers, as being in a relationship is one of the stresses they can not always cope with, no matter how long you have been together.
It is difficult for us carers to understand that, as we think in the beginning that they need us there to help and support them through it. It is not always the case as they sometimes need as much space as they can get just to get by.
Then you can get the other side, like I have with my husband who clings on to me. He needs to know I am close to him when he is going through a crisis, he feels safer knowing I am there. This sometimes has the opposite effect on me and I want to leave him to it, as I feel hemmed in, if you can understand that.
Hang in there and don't forget to look after yourself too, It is important for you own peace of mind. It can get better, but it not easy and will be the biggest and longest roller coaster ride you have ever been on.
Take care and stay strong.
Amethist
Unfortunately for carers, pushing us away is part and parcel of ptsd suffers, as being in a relationship is one of the stresses they can not always cope with, no matter how long you have been together.
It is difficult for us carers to understand that, as we think in the beginning that they need us there to help and support them through it. It is not always the case as they sometimes need as much space as they can get just to get by.
Then you can get the other side, like I have with my husband who clings on to me. He needs to know I am close to him when he is going through a crisis, he feels safer knowing I am there. This sometimes has the opposite effect on me and I want to leave him to it, as I feel hemmed in, if you can understand that.
Hang in there and don't forget to look after yourself too, It is important for you own peace of mind. It can get better, but it not easy and will be the biggest and longest roller coaster ride you have ever been on.
Take care and stay strong.
Amethist
