My partner hates my Medusa tattoo

[Scales]

To start, my husband hates tattoos. I don't know why, but it's the only thing he hates about me. I love tattoos. (I had 3 when we got married, so it's not something he didn't know about me.)

I told him yesterday that I was getting a cover-up. He seemed annoyed and didn't want me to get it, but he relented when I told him I'd been wanting it for a while.

When I came home from the appt, he told me he hated it. He was so upset with me for getting it. It's just a Medusa on my neck. He told me I should have asked for his opinion before getting it.

The thing is, this tattoo is very special to me. I have history of SA, and Medusa's story resonates with me. The other thing that upsets me is that he told me that a person should get permission from their partner before changing their body. That upset me. My ex, who was extremely abusive, was very controlling about certain aspects of my life, and it feels very reminiscent of that.

I don't know what to do or what to think. He's still angry, but he says he'll get over it.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

You are not a possession. Your body is your own. Personally I don’t care for tattoos so I don’t have any. Maybe 15 years ago my wife got one. There was no discussion beforehand nor did I think one was required. It was what she wanted to do and I am fine with that. In my view she has always been a beautiful woman and didn’t need any enhancement. But for her, I think it is a form of self expression and the last thing I would ever want to to is try to censor her self expression.

 

[Rose White]

Sounds like an awesome and powerful tattoo! Did you create it or was it based on historical representation?

 

[Movingforward10]

Good for you!

He doesn't need to like it. And like he says, he'll get over his anger. Let him stew in his self made anger a bit and hopefully he will come over and apologise to you for suggesting you need his permission. Hopefully that was something he said out of anger rather than done disturbing thing he believes.

I continue to get tattoos. My partner has none and would never get one. But, I accept that. And she accepts I'll get tattoos and she may not like them. My body. My choice. And all that.