Relationship My Possible Ptsd Sufferer Came Out Of Isolation, Now What?

[revelry]

After a month, my SO decided to answer the phone. This is my first isolation experience. I was frankly kinda shocked, but relieved. Things are a little different, but we did talk, although I kept it kinda brief and didn't want to overwhelm either one of us. He wont admit that there might be an issue, and i can't push it.
I kinda wound up getting blamed for the isolation, even though I was the one who had my fellings hurt and when I vocalized that, He vaporized. I stayed in contact, sending an e-mail here and there, leaving unreturned voicemails, and begging and pleading for him to let me know he was OK when all the tornados came through (that was the absolute worst).
But, he did finally answer the phone, after what felt like an eternity. He still calls me honey, expressed care for me, but kinda spun things to where everything was my fault and really didn't take any of the responsibility himself.
The thing is..... Im still kinda hurt, confused and deperately want to say wtf???? But he tends to see the world in black and white, with very few, if any shades of grey, and thinks that all is resolved (which i guess it kinda is --- at least im sure it is for him, he a bit more emotionally numb and protective of his own emotions) but I still feel like saying (or almost screaming it) "You can't get away with this, It was an emotional nightmare and Im hurt."
He's an amazing man, but How do i deal with my unresolved hurt, understand him, and move forward??

 

[revelry]

I wanted to add that, im realistic about the relationship, I know that there are going to times like this and Im getting a lot of good information from reading others posts. I know that I still have ALOT to learn, I guess im just a bit gunshy beacuse i don't want to do or say the wrong thing. Do I just "drop it", and pretend like it never happened? or If i should approach it, how do i express it, where it doesnt make him defensive, or angry and i wind up just pushing him further away?

 

[Foxtrot]

First, I'm feeling guilty for feeling like shit when my GF isolates for like a day . . . . a month? I'm amazed at your strength, revelry. I guess I would think that you gotta set your own boundaries. I don't think I personally would just drop it, but I might try talking about how the isolation made you feel and then see if that makes him go all banana pancakes on you. I still think you gotta say what is on your mind and not let you eat you alive. Those are my thoughts; I think dudes like it straight up, but then again, dudes with PTSD, I don't know. Easier said than practiced, for sure. Good luck!

 

[revelry]

I ve had to "learn" a lot and really fast..... It's hard, but theres a part of me that has never been more sure of ANYTHING in my life. So what, if it comes with some baggage, hell, we ALL have it---some more than others---i know i have my fair share. Im just sooo nieve, i dont want to do or say the wrong thing....

I appreciate the reply, it helps. He's talking, kinda, a text maybe once a week, but its a start....I know i cant push things, and patience is truely a virtue.... and thats where im at..... I do ok, most of the time, but sometimes it gets quiet, and lonely, and hard. but i still believe.