Supporter My Spouse Has C-ptsd

[dawnbowen68]

im at my wits end....just had a fight with my spouse cause my he wants to end it all!!! i can see it hurts him but i dont understand how!! i need someone to help me cope with this and help me help him!!! i love this man with all i have but feel so useless!!! can someone plz help me find the right path on helping him.......he's been fighting this for ten years and i just got into his life. IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO!!!!

 

[anthony]

There isn't much you can do, no. He has to fight against his PTSD, not you. What you can do is look after you first. If you're broken, then you're no good to him.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

You're a supporter so you can *support* him by encouraging him to seek out treatment. Beyond that, he pretty much has to do it on his own. I wish you the best.

 

[anthony]

he's been fighting this for ten years

In the scheme of PTSD... that's nothing, unfortunately.

 

[Wounded Scribe]

My spouse also has lived with mine and has also experienced the same frustration. I can say, at times ask yourself, are you seeing your spouse or are you seeing the PTSD? If you are seeing the PTSD, love the person under it. Also, one thing that has frustrated me to no end, not all is PTSD. I have the usual insecurities of life, not associated with PTSD but there's been occasion when my wife and others blame the PTSD and those episodes. Be kind to yourself. Do everything you can to take care of yourself. Have some time to renew and refresh. It's a rough road. I nearly lost my wife last year and children because of this. I'm intensive therapy. 3 providers working with me because it is that bad. Perhaps, send him a link to this community.

 

[Namenotdiagnosis]

Unless he's ready to help himself there's not much you can do apart from support him And maybe guide him . I totally agree in giving him this link, maybe it will be his first step, almost a difficult one as it is acceptance and acknowledgement of his cptsd. Don't beat yourself up about it , I'm sure your doing everything you can . You can only do so much before he accepts that he needs some therapy or proffesional help. I'm confident that your support is there but guidance is just as important . Good luck to both of you.

 

[intothelight]

@dawnbowen68 Welcome to the forum!

IS THERE ANYTHING I CAN DO!!!!

The best thing that you can do is take care of yourself. Don't let this disorder burn you out.

There is an entire section for supporters where you will find information and also support for yourself.