My t and our "parts"

[Punky143]

I have many "parts" that make up our system. My T said last week she would like to meet each one individually in addition to the co awareness she's dabbled in. I know her and I have talked about it for awhile now but day to day stuff kept coming up needing immediate response. It appears as if the dust has settled for now and the real work can resume. But, the parts are so nervous to let someone on the outside in. Lots of shame. The angry parts of course will remain tight lipped and feel some entitlement around "giving up" info and what benefit it will provide. Our T is aware of each ones feeling-of those we've made her aware of. The little parts are scared because when their sad all they want is their "mom." What they've always found was that their "mom" isn't the one they dream about and long for. Instead, is a mom who does love her daughter but unable to provide the emotional support and never could. So when times get scary, they will long for comfort and nurturing that has yet to be found. What is others experiences when allowing your parts to speak with your T?

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

When my parts speak to my therapist it is mostly because they have something that needs to be talked about. My therapist doesn't push for information such as details around abuse like who or where because my system is pretty clear about secrets being kept. Even though I think someday that might help for now it is helpful for my therapist not to prod and the parts will talk to her. Some of the younger ones that hold memories want to say too much sometimes and she helps them not to. I have some parts that have never spoken to my therapist and few that only have a few times. It's all been on their own timeline though. I don't know that any of this helps you, but I thought I would reply in case it did.

 

[ButterflyBean]

How does she "help them not to?" You can PM me…

 

[Punky143]

When my parts speak to my therapist it is mostly because they have something that needs to...

Thank you. You helped me in more ways then you think. Just that you replied, reminds us we're not alone