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2 weeks ago my 6 year army veteran boyfriend pulled a vanishing act. We live together and he recently has been going to the VA for counseling. Just before he left he told a good friend of his that he was so happy with me and he just needed to continue therapy. Two Friday's ago an army buddy of his bought him a plane ticket to Denver. On day 2 I had an accident and when he learned that I was in the hospital he literally dissapeared. He went from your the sweetest girl I know to ghosting. Fast forward 2 weeks I haven't heard a thing. We were due to move into a new place tomorrow and he's still gone with no contact. I reached out to the friend he ment and treated me like I was some insignificant girl who couldn't take a hint about a breakup. My SO belongings - gun, laptop, sports memo. Everything is here in our house. 4 days into not hearing from him I found out he had never bought a return flight. When he left he stocked the fridge with food and gave me a loving goodbye, said he'd miss me and couldn't wait to get home. I have pretty severe abandonment issues from my childhood and we regularly discuss my fears of him leaving one day and not coming back without notice. He always hugs me and tells me he would never do that to me, I am the one for him. Then boom. I found out a few days ago he showed up at his parents house in Atlanta, he did not let on to anything that had gone on and apparently they didn't even know he had a girlfriend, much less a live in one. He recently turned 30 and was experiencing some heightened feelings of self loathing and inadequacy. Still - he dissapeared without a word, made me out to be nothing in his life to his friend, went on a bender and never came home. I am left here to pack up his things and surrender his gun. He has never done anything close to this before. I gave him shit the first two days he ignored me I honestly think he had me blocked and didn't even see it. My hopes he will pop up to our home and explain have dwindled and turned into depressing, stressful, sadness. It's so hard for me to face that this is unforgivable and to get over it knowing I'll never have an answer. We literally discussed getting married the day before he left and he told me he'd do anything in the world to make it work between us forever.
