Need Advice Asap!!!

[seedling]

Let me know when you figure out what it is!

I can see you being able to show off a sheer joy of living.

 

[Jade-]

The party has already started and I am not going. I know it's the right decision. So why do I feel so depressed right now?

Shouldn't I be proud of myself for making a good decision instead of feeling so down?

 

[Marie E.]

Can you do something to cheer yourself up to distract yourself? Reading a book, eating ice cream? Sorry, but I eat ice cream when I feel down. I will eat it with you if you like? I'm silly sometimes.

 

[Nicolette]

Third, I guess I was mad at myself because part of me wanted to go..part of me wanted to go have a wild time.

But I'm not going. And I'm not changing my mind about it. Thanks for replying so fast everyone, I appreciate it.

And btw curiouser...you said That's true. I am making the choice not to. And I have been doing pretty good. I don't want to go to a bar any time soon....it would be the same as putting a pile of toys in front of a 4 yr old and expecting them to not want to play. Right now I think I'd be too tempted to play, so I need to stay away.:)

Good decision and good reasoning Jadebear. Breaking habits is hard and that would be what you are struggling with - letting go of the temporary high you got when going out and being the party girl. I am proud of you for staying home.

Given time I believe you will be able to go out and be "the party girl" without alcohol. I used to work in a pub/night club as a second job when I was younger. It was funny watching people get drunk and I found as the night went on I could have fun and 'pretend' I was drunk so say more than what I normally would without any alcohol.

Drinking before going out is also dutch courage..... one day you will be able to leave the house sober and still have a great time. You are strong and will get there!

 

[atl22]

I believe that you should be proud of yourself because you have made the right decision. Nicolette is right. You are in the process of learning how to have a good time without alcohol. Be patient and stay strong. Focus on the right now and the fact that you are sober and moving forward.

 

[Jade-]

I'm feeling fine now. Earlier when I was feeling down, I was feeling sorry for myself. Hubby works out of town every single weekend and when I got home from work today, I came home to an empty house. I couldn't help but think about what I was missing at the party. I felt so alone...for a split second I actually thought about how much better I would feel if I went to the party afterall....

Instead of letting my head go that route, I got busy, made phone calls, talked to people, etc. and it made a world of difference. I will have to remember this in case there's a next time. I now know the feeling will pass if I give it a bit of time.

 

[Nicolette]

They say it takes at least 21 days of continually challenging a habit to begin changing it - in terms of the brain acknowledging the change and not just automatically slipping back into subconscious habits.... I guess they mean reach the subconscious?!