General Need Advice On Military Divorce

[Court]

I need to know as a stay at home is there any assistance offered for free to help me start this process. I intended on waiting he got home but he has managed to talk to legal over in Afganistan and I can't just sit here anymore and wait.

We are currently in NC. I'm stressed to the point of no return. He has cleared our checking account last pay period and being a complete jerk. He is constantly harassing me.

I also have had his family reach out To me (there was really no relationship there ) because he has not contacted any of them since a month ago wanting a divorce. They are concerned as they talked weekly.

I have been married 13. 1/2 years and together almost 16 I am pretty sure I know what I am entitled to but he is no fighting me over everything. I didn't want this but divorce but it has hot the point of no return and I want away from this man and his nasty ways.

I know he has ptsd but at this point he has crossed lines and is being so selfish and verbal abusive I can no longer deal with this while he is half way across the world.
Court

 

[Sweetpea76]

I'm not sure about all states, but in my home state, legal aid doesn't handle domestic issues unless there is domestic violence. I know when I inquired about an issue with my ex husband not holding up part of the divorce judgement, they just sent me a worksheet that had instructions on how to file my own motion.

Back in the day, when I was an Army wife, the guys couldn't leave their wives and kids high and dry with no money like that. If he left you without a dime to your name and you have the kids, I'd contact his chain of command. I know it goes against the grain to be "that wife"... but if you are desperate, you are desperate.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Like Sweetpea said...Contact his chain of command. My mother had to do that with my father at one point and it worked.

 

[Court]

Thanks ladies I have contacted the COC and have yet to hear anything back. A lil birdie told me he is blaming me for the divorce but telling me he is saying its him big shocker lol. I never go to the command because it has that stigma but I see it as who cares it's all but over anyways.

I will def not let him off the hook if he is t providing for the children since I am a stay at home mom. I only get stronger though from his dumb actions and mistakes. Makes me realize I can do so much better without him and his selfish ways.

Court

 

[AlabamaChick]

Court

I am going thru the exact same thing. I just wanted to give you a hug because I know how you are feeling!! You are free to message me anytime.

 

[Court]

Thanks Alabamachick my heart goes out to you! Hugs

Court

 

[ds112496]

Court, were you able to get the answers you need? I am from NC and know that there is a year separation before a divorce can be finalized. I believe you can go to JAG and have a legal separation drawn up. If you still have not heard from the chain of command you can talk to the Chaplain. I am in TX going thru the same thing. The unit that my husband is in does not have an active frg. I had to contact the Chaplain for help. They were able to contact his rear d since I didn't have the information to contact them directly. Surprisingly they called me pretty quick. Did it help? Not really. I hope that you have better luck than I did.