Need Support And Suggestions Desperately

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you so much @Berlinda:hug: I am going to light a incense and eat some food and take care of my body and call a hot line. Your support means so much to me as each persons support has helped so much. Much appreciation and gratitude.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

@ladee you are so right. It has really soothed and comforted me so much. Thank you again, you touched me deeply.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@gizmo NO WAY!!!!!! Nope not having it. Pull your head out of your butt and let the sunshine in. You can't possible be down. There must be a mistake. You really aren't gizmo. What have you done with gizmo???? Where are you gizmo??????? HELLO! Where are you??????

Hang in there, hang tough, and this too shall pass. Sending :hug::hug::hug::hug:. Your way.....

 

[Friday]

I scare myself sometimes, oftentimes, when my mind blanks.

When every tool, every thing that helps, every remembrance, is just... Gone.

I'm coming to learn that piece in and of itself may be my mind not abandoning me, but giving me peace. Trusting me. Trusting myself. I've got this. You've got this.

:p I still hate it.

But if I look at it like a gift? A still moment in all of the storms? Loses the fear. Still means I've got to do exactly what you're doing. Start fresh. Seek out that which helps. Do things which may not make sense, but which feel right. Hold on through the moment. My tools may be hidden from me, but so too, are all the things which hurt me. So my mind blanking? May be myself trying to help myself. Giving me space to help myself without all the noise. <chuckling> Just so darn used to all the noise, the sudden silence is alarming. Breathe. Blank pages. Okay. Can work with a blank page.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

@She Cat you made me laugh so thank you for that. I was wondering where I went to as well.:hug:
Mumble, mumble, mumble.

@Friday never saw the blank space as a hidden gift before but it reframes it nicely.

Breathe. Blank pages. Okay. Can work with a blank page

I can breathe. Going to call the hot line now after eating and lighting incense.:hug::hug::hug:

 

[Ronin]

Slow breaths. Focusing just on my breath, nothing else, until stabilizing.

Soft music.

Shutting down additional stimuli / stuff that's too much.

Proper light / not too dark, not too bright.

Soft or engaging things to touch. (Love me some squeezy balls and squishables as is.)

Nice scents, activizing but not too heavy on the memory.

Showers / exercise / dance / movement / foood.

Just sleeping the thing through / catnaps / laying awake but half dreaming off when sleep is not doable. Also: Blankets and multiple layers clothing. Not being exposed. Shelters of all sorts.

 

[VioletButterfly]

@gizmo - So sorry to hear you're having a tough day. I do much of what has been offered above when trying to connect to myself or to the world. A few others to try: I've found a great station on Youtube of relaxing guitar music that seems to calm me down and focus me enough to do as @ladee has offered - go for a nice walk into your imagination. The music also allows me to settle down and read encouraging passages from different books that I have, or to color or paint, to come out here, or to look at children's picture books that seem to capture my imagination. I also listen to worship music that I find encouraging as it grounds me like nothing else, or I go the opposite extreme and put on old Foreigner, Journey, Fleetwood Mac type of albums as they stir me in a different way, but sometimes I need to get up and moving. Music seems to be my go to if I can't get out into nature.

I hope the crisis line was able to offer some assistance. Praying that you find what helps you. :hug::hug: VB

 

[barefoot]

Sorry to hear you're struggling @gizmo

Some things that work for me:
- having a bath or shower (bath if I want to relax and have a long soak, shower if I want something more invigorating)
- going for a walk. Or even just getting outside - standing in the garden!
- lighting scented candles - I've got different fragrances that have different associations/impacts
- feeding ducks - one of my favourite, favourite activities ever! It makes me feel very content.
- colouring
- pet an animal. Or even my favourite cuddly toy.
- play favourite music loud and sing along at the top of my voice, pretending I'm performing at the O2!
- watching a box set that will carry me along - I find that Scandal is great for this, even if I'm not really int the mood to watch anything else
- cleaning. Especially cleaning tiles and the oven, for some reason. Or reorganising a kitchen cupboard/wardrobe
- snuggling up - cosy socks, soft, tactile clothes, wrap up in a furry throw
- watch favourite comedy shows - Absolutely Fabulous and Friends are both things I can watch over and enjoy. Or watch funny animal clips on YouTube
- journal - though avoid if you think this could drag you deeper into negative feelings
- cook or bake or do something practical/crafty
- do a jigsaw? Not actually something I ever do but I just thought of it and can see how it could be a good distraction activity?
- diaphragmatic breathing exercises
- meditation

Will post again if I think of more....

Hang in there!

 

[scout86]

No real advice. Just wanted to say that you're a valued member of this community. (In case you forgot.) I think of you & Ms Spock as our "cheerleaders in chief". I hope your day gets better as it goes along!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I called the hot line and maybe can arrange an phone call therapy session. She gave me a phone number that tells me where food banks are. Another woman is sending me a form in the mail tomorrow that will waive the next six months co pays and prescriptions for me. All good things. I am going to go and visit a another friend may be later on today. I just thought of a series that I love that I can watch on TV.

@Ronin thank you for being there for me today. It really means so much to me. I am going to put on the series and just relax and get into the series, I got a lot of good news today and I am feeling better. The hot line counselor was the best.:hug: Thank you for your suggestions because I am doing some of them right now.

@VioletButterfly thank you for your care and concern:hug: it means so much to me. Thank you so very much, not much up to anything today so I am going to be relaxing.

@barefoot :hug: I so appreciate all of your suggestions and am going outside right now. Had two more calls from friends so I am being taken care of today by all of you which I can never thank you all enough.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

AWWWWWWWW thanks @scout86 thank you. Sadly today I am in great need of cheerleaders. The response has really helped to lift my spirits.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 541]

@gizmo Glad I could put a smile on you. We all need those days now and then. I'm really sorry that you're feeling so shitty. Brighter days are coming, I promise.

Sometimes, we need to just take it one minute at a time. Hang in there, really better days are coming. :hug::hug: