New Forum For CPTSD Information Created

[evergreen]

Ok, so why do you assume people who want a specific section are wanting to feel special and not mingle with other people?

 

[anthony]

That's not an assumption, that was the response from previous discussions about this same topic years ago and over the years this forum has operated. People don't want it for those reasons and others... not assumption.

 

[evergreen]

I am talking about you saying people wanted a forum because they felt special or because they did not want to mingle with others.

You are talking about people NOT wanting a separate forum because those who DO want one feel special or don't want to mingle.

That is those NOT wanting one assuming that those who DO want one want one because of needing to feel special or not wanting to mingle with others.

Two totally different things. I asked you why you assume that those who want a separate forum want one because they think they are special or because they don't want to mingle. Where are you getting this information?

 

[anthony]

Brandi, you are honestly now trying to tangle my statement from taking one portion away from the context of the rest. Please stop it. You cannot take a statement from the context of that post and attempt to make a point from it, as it just doesn't fly with me. The statement as a whole implicates that that is what people feel when you associate and group people together, you get negative feelings and stigma from others.

All talked to death quite honestly. Please do not try and take something out of the context it is meant.

 

[anthony]

If you choose, do a search on the psychological context of grouping people, and see what answers you come up with. No doubt, the same as what was mentioned in the context of one post. Obviously looking at both the pro's and con's of such things, as there are both. The negatives however outweight the positives in this situation with PTSD.

 

[evergreen]

... do you want me to just start breaking up the forum into little pieces because all these unique groups all feel special and that they suit one another better and don't want to mix with others?

I am not trying to twist anything. I won't point out things I see if that is what you wish.

You are the one who said that those who want separate forums 'feel special' and 'don't want to mix with others'. I have asked you numerous times why you believe that is the case, but you refuse to answer and instead stick with how there are those who don't want it.

I have told you the issue for me is not even the fact you won't separate it. I honestly don't care as I see many benefits in the forum. My issue is that you are not responding to what I am saying. And now you are accusing me of twisting things on purpose.

I am done talking about it. The forums great, keep it the way it is.

 

[anthony]

You are the one who said that those who want separate forums 'feel special' and 'don't want to mix with others'.

There is a very good reason what I am trying to tell you is not answering your question Brandi, because you have taken a statement, changed it to suit yourself, then thrown it back at me with your interpretation which was not the context it was given... to make this simple, look at what you wrote and what you just quoted that I wrote please:

• Brandi said "those who want separate forums 'feel special' and 'don't want to mix with others'."
• Anthony said (brandi quoted) "these unique groups all feel special and that they suit one another better and don't want to mix with others?"

How exactly did you take "groups", apply it to yourself, make it about you or an individual, then throw it back at me? Again, as stated already, you have taken a statement from one context, changed it, put your own personal meaning upon it, then thrown it back at me.

Again I will ask, please do not do that nor try and make me out to be the bad guy here. I am not trying to annoy you or piss you off, I am not trying to offend you or any one else, but you are asking me something that I did not say, instead you have changed what I said, made it personal to yourself, then asked me that instead. I cannot answer what I did not say.

When you put groups of people together, sorry, facts are, animosity is created between groups.

 

[Nicolette]

I think we all see there is a difference of interpretation and, dare I say, that this is bordering on being argumentative IMHO.

 

[anthony]

This exact type of scenario you are going to become very accustomed to when your own forum launches. The first two years of this place... let me just say, I was forever having to apologise for something I had written, did say, that was interpreted incorrectly. After this many years, I have become quite good at choosing my words when I write, because everything I say here is under scrutiny of near every member... just because I am the owner, nothing more. You are going to find the exact thing with your own forum soon enough.

I believe it has helped me grow, and to tackle situations like this much better than previous years, and to really know what exactly you say or answer, because people will interpret as individuals to either make their own point, get their view across in a skewed manner or simply just to try and win, like fighting.

You will get much better at this type of thing running your own forum, trust me on that. You both will become the centre of attention and under scrutiny of every member.

 

[anthony]

I think we all see there is a difference of interpretation and, dare I say, that this is bordering on being argumentative IMHO.

We're not arguing my dear... discussing.

 

[Deleted member 541]

JMO....If there are separate diaries for CPTSD and PTSD sufferers, then there will be those that ask for separate sections for different traumas... That has been addressed before...

While I do understand that there is a difference between CPTSD and PTSD I feel that making them separate (which I know that you are not Anthony) would feel isolating to some.

If it ain't broke...DON'T fix it!!!!!!

 

[Grama-Herc]

Just my 2 cents worth, but "don't mess with success".

When I started reading this thread my first impression was to create a special place for cptsd people because they do deal with different types of issues.

By the end of this thread I have changed my mind and agree with Anthony.