New Job Working with Traumatized Adolescents with ED

[scout86]

One upon a time, I was going to get a PhD and go into research and teaching. Most of the way through my MS, I looked around and noticed that those of us with idiosyncratic tendencies aren't actually appreciated in much of academia. No matter what they say. I thought about it. Realized I'd get along, as long as I had the right department chair. Otherwise, there'd be a problem. I finally had to accept that the people running the show actually liked the show just as was. The only reasonable thing to do seemed to be to leave them to it. Which I did. With no regrets. (Ok, I regret that the system is as f*cked up as it is.) Dealing with bosses who seem incompetent is the reason I'm self employed. I don't know that I have any advice for you, but sometimes things seem to be stupid because they are and you have to decide that's worth living with. (Or if that's even something you can do.)

But it still sounds like you have ED stuff waiting to be sorted out. ?

 

[Kintsugi]

sometimes things seem to be stupid because they are and you have to decide that's worth living with

As my therapist liked to say, “Before you decide if you’re depressed, look around first to make sure you’re not just surrounded by assholes.” Yeah, it’s a lot of bullshit here.

But it still sounds like you have ED stuff waiting to be sorted out. ?

I definitely have that going on, and I’m still trying to figure out if this job is helping or overwhelming me.

 

[Ronin]

I’m going to start from the ground here:

You want that job, or no?

Second, what’s most problematic in what it stirs in you while working there? (The EDs, the age of them, the fact you tried to move the whole thing off & even bits bring the whole back, something else?) << Thinking if there is one thing you could start dealing with it by, that would not be so overwhelming. Isolating the now vs. then.

Third, what can help you help yourself? Either other than the job, or in conjunction with it.

I don’t think I’m supposed to say I’m worried about your drinking, too, but yeh, worried bout your drinking.

I would also have a high five for your trying to work it through though, & a hug, so there is that. ((Simon))

 

[The Albatross]

Being in it but not "of it" is an "art"/skill I've yet to master or practice with any consistency.
Your shrink is right: Before you decide if you’re depressed, look around first to make sure you’re not just surrounded by assholes.” Yeah, it’s a lot of bullshit here.