TheDollFace
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Hi everyone. I am new to the forum, but I am at a point where I need to find support and talk with people who are going through the things I am.
Two years ago, I met a man who is funny, and sweet, and wonderful most of the time. In many ways, he is everything that I ever wanted in a partner, and we recently got engaged. He is a combat veteran who is suffering from PTSD, and occasionally that manifests itself in episodes of anger.
The episodes include displays of extreme anger as well and verbal and mental abuse. When these episodes happen, he usually follows up the next day, albeit in a much calmer way, as though he did nothing wrong and I owe him an apology.
The latest of these events occurred when I he started lecturing/arguing with me about some topic (it was so stupid that I don’t remember what it was anymore). I explained to him that I was not arguing with him in a calm manner. He hung up on me, but proceeded to send me text messages where he threatened to replace me by morning, told me I had been acting like a “bad girl” and that I needed to recognize that he was the man and apologize. He ended the rain of texts by demanding that I call and leave an apology on his voicemail and when I didn’t comply he got angrier.
Events like this are rare, and in the past two years he has only had 4 episodes of extreme anger. However, he has smaller episodes every couple of weeks.
It becomes frustrating for me because he behaves as though he should not be held accountable for what he does because of the PTSD, and sometimes he acts like I am a terrible person for not knowing what it is like to experience what he has gone through.
I’m really struggling to be strong for him right now.
Two years ago, I met a man who is funny, and sweet, and wonderful most of the time. In many ways, he is everything that I ever wanted in a partner, and we recently got engaged. He is a combat veteran who is suffering from PTSD, and occasionally that manifests itself in episodes of anger.
The episodes include displays of extreme anger as well and verbal and mental abuse. When these episodes happen, he usually follows up the next day, albeit in a much calmer way, as though he did nothing wrong and I owe him an apology.
The latest of these events occurred when I he started lecturing/arguing with me about some topic (it was so stupid that I don’t remember what it was anymore). I explained to him that I was not arguing with him in a calm manner. He hung up on me, but proceeded to send me text messages where he threatened to replace me by morning, told me I had been acting like a “bad girl” and that I needed to recognize that he was the man and apologize. He ended the rain of texts by demanding that I call and leave an apology on his voicemail and when I didn’t comply he got angrier.
Events like this are rare, and in the past two years he has only had 4 episodes of extreme anger. However, he has smaller episodes every couple of weeks.
It becomes frustrating for me because he behaves as though he should not be held accountable for what he does because of the PTSD, and sometimes he acts like I am a terrible person for not knowing what it is like to experience what he has gone through.
I’m really struggling to be strong for him right now.
