New Neighbor, Lots Of Trouble

[Tom S. in Tn.]

Suspect meth.
What do the other neighbors think?
If you are vested in your home and community, stand your ground.
Research such laws in your state.
Tom S. in Tn.

 

[Deleted member 31177]

Problems could go beyond PTSD. My father has ptsd from war, but he is also either a narcissist, psychopat...

I was thinking Sociopath and/or Psychopath as well. As one diagnosed with non-combat, but multi-life-or-death and severe trauma, including sexual trauma/rape PTSD, it sounds more like he is delusional, schitzophrenic(sp?), definitely a Sociopath for lying, making things up without regret or fear of consequences nad Psychopath because of the threatening way in which he is going about things and especially posting things that your husband raped a 17 year old - THAT is VERY SERIOUS and I would most DEFINITELY also contact the DOJ's office (Dept. of Justice) - I have dealt with them before and they were VERY helpful in my situation (of a Psychologist misdiagnosing me, putting me on a ton of the wrong meds, stupifying me and sexually exploiting me for 6 months, I was numb and very submissive while on those drugs) - but your guy is most definitely dangerous. I would call the Department of Justice in your State today! That is what they are there for and they will know in a second of looking this guy up his entire history of crime and/or mental history. I wish you safety and peace, and God's Holy protection! <3

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I agree with @deer In headlights about the book by gavin de Becker. Excellent resoruce.

 

[Deleted member 31177]

And actually, you could also start an official "Neighborhood Watch" in your Neighborhood. We had a great one where I lived. You just get in touch with your Police Department and let them know you want to start a neighborhood watch in your specific area and they will give you all the info. you need, and (well, you need more than just two neighbors as I found out when I had moved into the first Townhouse I bought), but I would highly recommend it because the more people involved in watching out for their neighbors, the safer you'll be AND the more witnesses you'll have.

 

[laurainalameda]

Have you considered setting up a security camera at your door? These systems have come down in price significantly in recent years and use blue tooth to record, I believe. If you can't move, you might want some solid evidence rolling at all times. At the very least, have your cell phone on record in your pocket so there will be an audio recording whenever he approaches you outside. Never answer your door to him. Just my advice, all free, worth what you paid for it

 

[Deleted member 31177]

As well (coming from a 27 year Legal Secretary background), we have always told our clients to keep a DAILY diary of any and ALL incidents no matter how small (or big) so that you have a record of it that way as well. When I sued my Psychologist for sexual exploitation for 6 months after being misdiagnosed and on the wrong meds, they subpoenaed ALL of my diaries (and I've kept diaries/journals since I was 12 years old). Even when I wrote about when i was raped at age 16. So it could be very helpful to keep a daily journal in the long run. (in my case, since the whole lawsuit and DOJ hearing is over, I haven't written in a diary or journal since and never will again.

 

[stillstanding2]

This is beyond your regular PTSD. I actually knew someone with some of these really terrible behaviors onc...

I too know a person with this kind of dangerous behavior. He lives on the other side of my block. My whole neighborhood believed him for a while that he suffered from PTSD acquired during Desert Storm, most of us think now his problems are something else.

He is a Navy vet, with severe back problems and subsequent pain. But I learned that his injuries were not combat related, but from an accident while unloading cargo in port. Since then, he has been addicted to a wide range of pain pills.

I used to talk with him about firearms, since I have a small collection of antique weapons and he owned and practiced with more modern guns. He acquired a license for carrying concealed weapons and began bragging about that while walking his dogs.

Problems arose when he adopted a mixed German Shepherd and Rottweiler puppy. Even as a puppy, the dog seemed insanely aggressive and hard for the man to handle. The dog attacked other dogs as it grew and eventually lunged viciously at anyone, including babies in strollers. Some of those times, I witnessed the man almost lose hold of his leash. All in the neighborhood feared to dog and his owner. The man insisted he would train the dog as a comfort animal to take to nursing homes!

Finally when the dog bit one of my neighbors, the neighbor threatened to sue, at which point the dog owner reached into his coat, declaring he was going to shoot my neighbor. The man with the dog followed closely behind my neighbor all the way home, telling him to turn around and "get what he had coming."

Thanks to luck, the dog owner must have been bluffing. My neighbor pressed charges and the dog owner was served court papers to restrict his dog at home and ban the dog owner from our street. He was not further prosecuted and still lives in the neighborhood. Rumor is that he has grown even more bitter and could become yet more dangerous.

I think the man's actions are much less related to PTSD than they are caused by long-term addiction. No one I know gives a damn what his problem really is. We just don't want to see him again.

 

[Fadeaway]

Claiming to have PTSD does not make it so. Then again he may have it, but I agree with everyone else that there is way more going on.

I am not sure sociopath fits though. I could be wrong though, but the sociopaths I know, tend to try and make you like them while they are trying to destroy them. The ones I know would have been as friendly as could when you waved to them, and then and then report you for stalking.

Obviously we can't diagnosis him, let alone from 2nd hand information, but it seems easy to rule out simply being PTSD.