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[Daisy1234]

I also felt a "perv" vibe .. I never went back, but then again it was my first time going to therapy....

I will do that google search again. As is obvious, I'm really thrown off guard and weirded about this. It feels like yet another thing to worry about.

Back here editing. I've slowed down a bit here and reread lostforgottensoul's first post. I didn't take it in the first time. Now actually reading the part where she says when she recognized she felt safe with her therapist, the urges stopped. That makes me feel a lot better.

I do feel safe with him, that's true. Although he still may not be the right T since I don't feel I can talk about the sex/masturbation stuff. This needs more thought.

 

[Daisy1234]

I also felt a "perv" vibe .. I never went back, but then again it was my first time going to therapy....

Well, I attempted to read the first article that came up. It was from Psychiatric Times and when I went to the second page, it asked me to obtain a membership so I've abandoned the article. Thanks for mentioning it though. :)

 

[HaveFaith]

Well, I attempted to read the first article that came up. It was from Psychiatric Times and when I w...

guidetopsychology is the site name ... search erotic transference. i was prevented from listing the site here .. hope this goes through!

 

[Daisy1234]

guidetopsychology is the site name ... search erotic transference. i was prevented from listing the s...

will check it out thanks.

Now I feel afraid to go to sleep tonight. Have never felt this way before. Feel like I will make myself vulnerable. Or feel like I won't wake up. I think I may email my T and ask him for a referral to a woman who is experienced in trauma. Not sure the reason I'll give . . . I think I'll just say it has to do with something I don't feel comfortable talking to a man about. I really don't want to start all over again but I think I may have to. . .

HaveFaith (I like your name), I read the article but must be too overloaded to focus. I will have to reread tomorrow. Thank you again.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I have never heard of erotic transference.

Erotic transference is a term used to describe the feelings of love and the fantasies of a sexual or sensual nature that a client experiences about their therapist. Erotic countertransference is about the therapist's feelings about their client.

Erotic transference and countertransference - what counsellors and psychotherapists need to know

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[Daisy1234]

Thanks lostforgottensoul. Kind of complex (the Psychiatric Times article especially) I really perceive my therapist as someone who knows what he's doing in terms of trauma work (except trying to move me forward with meditation/relaxation apparently) except am worried the therapeutic relationship would be forever ruined if I told him about my sexual thoughts/urges that occurred during our last session. Should I just email him that it's been mentioned to me that "positive transference" seems to be happening? And he will know what I mean by that phrase (that I'm referring to eroticism)?

I think my cup runneth over today (referring to cup theory). My neck hurt HORRIBLY yesterday, it was really bad.

 

[Daisy1234]

I meditate quite frequently, and started to well into my therapy. I don't know much in life, but I...

Hi sarahbellum, I have been searching online but don't see anything on when it's appropriate to begin relaxation exercises. Could you please explain? Thanks. :)

I meditate quite frequently, and started to well into my therapy. I don't know much in life, but I...

 

[Daisy1234]

I meditate quite frequently, and started to well into my therapy. I don't know much in life, but I...

Sarahbellum, just a P.S. here. I finally found an article on the dangers of meditation. I think in my email to my therapist I will ask him if he's certain that at this stage I am ready for meditation/guided imagery, etc. I appreciate those of you who have brought all of this to my attention. I hope you have a good day !

 

[joeylittle]

Kind of complex (the Psychiatric Times article especially) I really perceive my therapist as someone who knows what he's doing in terms of trauma work (except trying to move me forward with meditation/relaxation apparently) except am worried the therapeutic relationship would be forever ruined if I told him about my sexual thoughts/urges that occurred during our last session.

FYI, the Psychiatric Times article linked is written for the therapist, not for the client. My opinion is that you should go ahead and talk with your therapist, without trying to use any coded therapy-language to mask it. Tell them what happened. Share that you were reading about transference, and ask if that's what it was (if you want) - and let them help you work through it. You'll feel better, and it's their job to work through that kind of stuff with you as well. Honestly, I believe it comes up quite frequently.

And if, for some reason, your therapist doesn't handle it well? You'd be better off knowing that, now. There will be a lot more you need to feel comfortable talking about with them, regarding your therapeutic relationship going forward. There may be times you are angry, or disappointed, or frustrated. So it's not a bad thing to go ahead and address any issue in the client-therapist relationship - including these kinds of thoughts you had in session.

 

[Daisy1234]

Thanks Joeylittle. I guess I will need a female therapist. My recent abuser has lead me to think that all men are pigs just sizing me up for potential sexual interaction and objectify me (although not thinking that about you now) . I know this isn't true. I know there are plenty of men out there who respect women and don't view them only as someone to have sex with. Obviously I need to work on this issue. Thanks for your reply.

 

[Freedomfighter]

Hi everyone. This probably isn't in the right section but here goes. Please know that I am not a tr...

What you are describing pretty much amounts to the capability of your abuser to get into your head. I have past co workers who after I was stalked tried to do the same to me. Males and females. The females turned to prostitution and are consumed with anything sexual, which to me is really an attempt of trying to be good at something when someone can not be good at anything worth wile.

These people and their friends attempt to shock me by interfering with my normal life by introducing their disgusting sexual practices into my life and they do that on purpose.

So, I think what you are going through is just the fact that this predator is attempting to control you by being forced to think about his life, by about what he wants.

 

[Daisy1234]

What you are describing pretty much amounts to the capability of your abuser to get into your he...

Sorry this happened to you Freedomfighter. Well he definitely has me thinking. I think it will just take time. I hope thoughts about the ordeal will become a distant memory soon. Time has got to be on my side.