Newbie With A Spouse With Recently Diagnosed PTSD

[ISupportHer]

LOL, just that quick I thought of another comment.
The Therapist. As pointed out, the Th cannot talk with you without her permission. You may be able to reach some understanding. Sometimes you CAN contact them and leave a message with concerns. You just don't get any feedback, which is frustrating. I would add a word of caution however. Sometimes the TH will feel they need to actually inform your wife that you have, in fact, contacted them. This can really be a bad thing if your wife is struggling with trust issues. There were times I have not contacted the Th because if the topic comes up it would be known it came from me. It would be bad if my wife felt there was this discussion going on behind her back. So I eat it, so to speak.

 

[Jawn]

Thanks ISH. Indeed she does have some trust issues and she has gotten made at me a few times over the past several months for talking to her Best Friend and to her family. Although from my point of view, talking to her sister is what got her into the doctor in the first place so it was well worth it. She mentioned that the other day for some reason that she didn't like me doing things behind her back. So I will refrain from contacting the Therapist.

 

[ISupportHer]

Jawn,

I'm not really saying NOT to, just be aware and know the ground rules and consequences. If there is a safety situation, then you need to do whatever you need to do.

ISH

 

[Marley]

This is what you need to do ... just be there for her when she needs it. Don't intervene with the Therapist unless it is entirely necessary. It is very easy to let your emotions and desire to help overcome the situation, but your wife needs to know she can trust you. In good time I know she will tell you whatever trauma it is. And if she does tell you this trauma, don't try to bring it up as a cause for a lot of issues or problems that come up in this present time frame.