UPDATE:
I finally had the nerve to tell my rapist off today. I was bringing in my groceries and he grabbed a bag out of my hand; I snatched it back, and told him I didn't need his help. I looked him in the eye and told him to back off. I was firm and maybe a little aggressive, but I am so proud that I was able to accomplish this, it may seem small, but to me, even looking him in the eyes while talking was a big accomplishment. Thanks for the support of my PTSD family.