No Offense And I Apologize, But My Sister Is A Raging Bitch.

[ashdawn8287]

Thank you so much for those kind works kahlan (and everyone else hehe) they hit deeper than you know and that made my day. Thanks thanks thanks.

Hope you are doing well kahlan.

 

[kahlan]

Not really but trying :)

 

[ashdawn8287]

"This too shall pass."

Just take GREAT care of yourself and spoil yourself rotten. Don't feel bad about having your feelings, you have every right to feel themjust take care of yourself. ;)

 

[Philippa]

Oh I know it's hard and in no way pleasant to be on the receiving end of her crap...I just thought I'd give a friendly reminder.

I also know what it is like to have horrible siblings. I've copped similar treatment from both my brothers, during my recovery. They had no idea what I was going through, and it didn't matter because they act like hard asses and as though my issues are me just playing the victim. I was homeless and living in a shelter, and my brother chastised me for playing the victim when I told him.

Other crazy behavior as well that made me throw my hands in the air and cry "enough- you people have done enough damage to me and I'm not going to let you anywhere near me to inflict more of it anymore."

 

[ashdawn8287]

Oh philippa my dear I am so sorry. I am so lucky to know you! THanks for cheering me on!

 

[therisa]

Ashdawn, I have walked through this, myself, with my younger brother, whom I no longer have any relations with. Except, he came close, several times, to ending my life, with his actions.

 

[DMerish]

It's heartbreaking that your niece has to put up with her behavior... I know that your awesome example is what will help her pull through and live her life differently to her mum!!! ...I do hope your sister opens her eyes to how lucky she it to have you for a sister!!! I hope she gets the help she desperately needs, and eventually realizes that she can heal her life the way you are healing yours.

Ashdawn,

I know you know that you're on the right path with putting your healing and health first, and not allowing anyone to act abusively towards you. I think cutting ties with your sister at this time is the right thing especially now with what you yourself went through recently (panic attacks and getting meds right).

You need not feel guilty for declining to care for an abuser - even if that person is a blood relative - simply do not engage. Doing so is a healthy self-protective mechanism. Just be your own sweet self and let her go . . .

What did your mom say when you mentioned contacting child services?

Drew :hug:

 

[ashdawn8287]

She asked what happened and I told her she was drunk again using me as her punching bag. She was worried and upset. I think she went over there or is over there figuring it out now.

Thanks for sharing therisa I am SO glad you didn't end your life!

 

[ashdawn8287]

I sent her an email and here it is:

1. I love you
2. Maybe if you actually listened and accepted my issues lately you would understand and educate yourself on medications and RECENT ptsd studies. I ended up in the hospital twice because of a medication reaction-calling me crazy for that is weak and low of you and not what a supporting sister should do.
3. I am strong, confident, kind, and caring. you are lucky to have a sister like me. Nothing bad you say to me will ever bring me down I know who I am and I have good people and good support. Calling me bad names is not healthy. And if you have a problem with me being who I am that is your issue NOT mine so I don't need to take on your evil bullshit.
4. I cannot count how many times you have TARGETED me, even as a kid, for your own self issues and it is NOT acceptable to treat anyone and even me like that when you are drunk and it is not an excuse, not accepted, I do not deserve it, and I am done putting up with it. Don't even bother apologizing. It is not necessary as the only thing that would make it right is by getting help.
5. I want our relationship to be estranged and I don't want you around me and neither does Scott until you actually prove you can take care of your drinking issues once and for all.