No One Understands Me.

[smooch]

Sorry, been sick. Stomach acting up and neighbors won't leave me alone. Dr says I am overwhelmed.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I am sorry smooch. Hang in there. :)

 

[CraftyCath]

Hi Smooch,

it's so frustrating when people don't understand, I've given up trying to get them to. People her DO understand though, with true empathy and they are so non-judgmental. This is the only place I am not treated like a weirdo or with embarrassment. I hope you start to feel better soon x

"Don't you remember doing so-and-so or going here or there?"

Jaybird, I hate this, trying to dig into those memories but you feel like your brain has been rinsed and being told to just 'get over it,' or 'I thought you were better,' It really annoys me. No one understands PTSD better than those who have PTSD.

 

[Jaybird3939]

Crafty, my brain feels like a sort of fog over that time, even after all these years. It's so frustrating! The other thing that I find really hard are family members who minimized what I was going through so that it would make THEM feel better when I started acting "normal". I think I would have been helped a lot by trying therapy, but my relatives were embarrassed by what happened & just wanted it to go away (like murder was a social disease). "Get over it already", "Hasn't it been long enough?" "Why are you still dwelling on it?" I've heard them, lost relationships because of it, but you can't force it...I hope everyone who's gone through or is going through a trauma doesn't force themselves to do or be any certain way. It only hurts in the end.
Janine

 

[Srain]

Smooch,

I hope that you take good care of yourself and continue to post here, you are very welcome on this site with us.

peace,
Rain

 

[CraftyCath]

Yes, come join the fun Smooch!

 

[smooch]

My daughter, who is one one my biggest stressors (she is 22) started a job today, finally, and instead of feeling better I am still tired. I just know she is gonna come home and complain.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

You should be a little easy with her. I am that age, its not easy. Does she have ptsd too?

 

[CraftyCath]

I find having my lads at home very stressful Smooch, they are 18 and 21 and they moan and moan! I take myself off to my room, do some deep breathing and try to relax.

The stress of having them around, especially if they are not very supportive, takes time to settle down as does the tiredness. Get plenty of rest when you can, try to relax and do something nice for yourself. And hang in there. :)

 

[CraftyCath]

Ayesha is right in the fact that it isn't easy for her either. I try to remind myself that they do not have PTSD so they cannot fully understand. I try to keep things as normal as I can for them so they grew up with a fairly normal life, putting my needs last. Now they are older they understand a little more but nobody can see what goes on in my head. I just find that I have to put some distance between them and me if things get too intense - that's when I go and relax in my room. They know I need to do it and they know it isn't a rejection of them.