Not Entirely Sure How I Feel About This Story

[kahlan]

Okay, this morning, I was actually checking out the news. I don't generally do this because it mostly just depresses me. Anyway, I came across this

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/09/11/marianne-theresa-johnson-reddick-obituary_n_3907271.html

I, on one hand can entirely understand where the family is coming from. I could imagine myself doing this for one or two people, however as cathartic as it may be, it doesn't truly offer closure.

 

[lcb]

I actually understand where the children come from. I remember before they took my dad off life support I asked the doctors if he still we be able to yell at us. In my mind I felt like it was a sense of peace and closure.

That now when I get scared i remind myself he is dead. I am working on myself but it is a comforting feeling he is not here anymore.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I think it's hilarious. Obituaries are like Facebook pages. They showcase the good (even if there's very little) and hide the bad. In that sense, they're not truthful in the disclosure sense.

 

[kahlan]

That's very true Solara.. there's always a big taboo about speaking ill of the dead even when its completely warranted! Suddenly a cruel person in life becomes saintly in death. I'm just a little more curious about whether the short term relief of creating this will be long term beneficial to the family. Believe me I fully understand the want to post that.

 

[Britt.f7]

I have a friend that was abandoned by her dad after her parent's divorce. She found out he died and wrote a bitter memory of her father on the funeral's website. It was very cathartic for her to do so. Her step brother's had it removed shortly after it's posting but not before some people read it. It opened her up to family she hadn't heard from since she was a child. This has been a good thing. She still feel's bitter towards her dad, rightfully so, but it brought her peace in various ways.

Hopefully this has done the same for their family.

 

[Changing4Best]

My father's father was a brutal man, caused untold pain to our family. My father hired the stone carver to carve onto his old man's gravestone. The carver placed the following on the stone:

His name and the dates of his birth and his death were already there on the stone. My dad added the words "THE GOOD DIE YOUNG" below that. Oh, his father lived to be 102 years old, by the way.

He who laughs last laughs best, as they say!

 

[EverOnly358]

"THE GOOD DIE YOUNG" Classic! Hahaha! ;D

 

[DMerish]

A bit of background on the mom that died and the authors of the obit:
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[Privateer]

Heh. A dead arsehole is still an arsehole, I suppose. Falling down and lying still does not undo the deeds of one's life.