Not Sure If I Should Tell My Therapist Or Not

[joeylittle]

I just know that i am not ready or wanting to talk to cps at all!

This must be so hard for you, @Nicole0317. You're doing amazing, I just wanted you to know that.

Also, don't worry about what may or may not happen to your brother. If he's still a minor/juvenile, there's a lot of different things that can happen, and most of them actually involve not being charged, specifically. The point isn't whatever his punishment is going to be. The point is only that he did something to you that was wrong, and he needs to know that it was wrong, he needs to really be taught that he cannot do it again - however he's going to get taught these things, it's not going to be your parents and it's not going to be you (nor should it be).

So, in order for him to learn it was wrong and get solid understanding of why, and to never do it again, you're going to have to talk to CPS.

And it sucks that you are the person who has to do that, because you already have gone through the pain of it, plus more. It just sucks.

But you can do it. That kind of behavior doesn't just go away on its own. Also, while you are in recovery, you just can't be required to be dealing with him in any way, at home. You know? That's not fair on you.

 

[Nicole0317]

This must be so hard for you, @Nicole0317. You're doing amazing, I just wanted yo...

Well I don't have a choice to talk to him and hang out with him at my house rather I like it or not my parents told me there is no logical reason to be scared of him at home but in my opinion I think I have every right to be scared of him.:bag::banghead::cry::nailbiting:

 

[joeylittle]

Yes, @Nicole0317 - you do have every right to be scared of him. You have the right to feel however you feel, period. When will you be reporting on it officially, or has that already happened?

 

[Nicole0317]

:banghead:

Yes, @Nicole0317 - you do have every right to be scared of him. You have the right...

I reported it last week on Monday to my therapist and a close friend who is seeing the same therapist and the both of them reported to cps on Tuesday and my parents know about this obviouslsy and talked to my brother who is saying that he never did anything so I kind of regret saying anything because what if cps beleives him over me since he's younger than me I mean if they don't believe me if no one beleives me what was the point of saying anything? But yea it was reported a week and one day ago exactly really scared to talk to them I mean my T asked like 20quesrions and I couldn't even answer half of them in words :bag::banghead::nailbiting::nailbiting::tdown::cry::banghead::banghead:

 

[KwanYingirl]

@Nicole0317 you are in the same position as most people are when they report sexual abuse. Despite the fact that you were the victim, too often it is met with denial and scapegoating. Stay firmly in your truth. You deserve justice and healing. There will be naysayers and they will try to make you go away so as not to peel back the face of your abuser. Stand strong. You are truth and you have a voice. Don't let anyone take away your voice. Shout out to the heavens, release your tension. You are not at fault in any of this. You show remarkable courage despite the hardships that you are experiencing.

Perhaps you could ask your therapist about getting an advocate through your local rape and assault agency. That way you could have support in dealing with CPS. This is what these agencies do-offer support and advocacy.