Not Sure If I'm A Posting In The Right Area.

[imogenp]

Hello I am Jenny,
Without writing a whole long schpeal about what's going on with me, i'll just write..

Me and my husband got married in 04, and the dating days were wonderful.. He was sweet, kind, patient and sensitive.
He enlisted in the Army in 04 and got out in 11... Ever since then it has been a nightmare.. He won't work, he won't leave the house, he drinks heavily, he's mean, controlling, lazy and makes empty promises.
He won't help with the kids, he stays up all night and sleeps all day.

We lived in San diego for 2 years, but had to leave because we got evicted because he stopped going to school.

The same thing is about to happen again.. We have only been in our apartment since June, and all he pretty much does is sleep, eat , watch tv and play video games.

Me and the kids feel neglected!

And to top it off, we have 0 to no income but yet he takes in his lazy butthead brother who is as lazy and a alcoholic as he is..

I keep on thinking i need to leave to protect me and my kids, but somehow i feel guilty that he is this way.

I am tired of having my feelings hurt, i want my old husband, best friend back.. But i know that isn't possible.

 

[Lifo]

You should put your kids first. Your husband isn't doing anything to help himself, and you cannot fix him. Your kids deserve a loving, stable home and he cannot provide that for them. I know it is tough, but things will only get worse unless your husband seeks treatment and is dedicated to working on healing.

 

[Amoceh]

May I introduce you to the 3 C's? 1) You didn't Cause it. 2) You can't Control it. 3) You can't Cure it.

I echo Lifo for the rest.

Gentle support while you sort your way through a tough decision.

 

[Esat]

I stayed. It wasn't helpful. It sucked the life out of me - seriously. If he is not willing to see what is happening you won't be able to get through to him. I expect that is one of the reasons you are staying? 'If only I could get through?' thought patterns?

 

[Miceno]

Hi Jenny,

Welcome to the forum.

To be honest, I'm wondering if you would rather have your quote in the Introductions section. If you want, you can request this by posting in the Help section with a link to the thread, or by clicking the "Report" button on your own thread and putting an explanation into the pop up box.

Me and the kids feel neglected!

If you and the kids are about to get evicted for a second time, then I think this is quite serious. Are you seeing a therapist or someone you can talk to, to get support and perhaps advice or guidance?

 

[Ruvad]

To be honest, I'm wondering if you would rather have your quote in the Introductions section.

This is posted anonymously, it stays anonymous.

 

[Hopomo]

Miceno here.

I'm a bit confused. If you use the myptsd site with an anonymous username and don't post anything that identifies you personally, then it's anonymous anywhere on the myptsd. It "stays anonymous" whether you post in this section or in Discussion or wherever.

You've posted here but given a name - if it's your real name, you're reducing your anonymity regardless of the forum you're posting in. If it's not your real name I'm not sure of the point of giving a name.

I'm not saying all this to be picky or anything. I just want to make sure that you realise that what you post here is as accessible to the world at large as anything elsewhere on the forum. If you do a Google search on "jenny ptsd married 04" for example, I expect you'll see your post on the first page of results.

When I joined myptsd I didn't realise how public it was - everywhere except Members Diaries. The site has never pretended it wasn't public, in fact it makes it clear that it is. I missed some of that, but it wasn't the fault of the site, it was just me missing it.

Just want to give a heads up in case you aren't aware.

Maybe your comment doesn't relate to this - if so, I'm afraid I don't really understand it.