Yes. I think it’s that too - taking the caretaker role. Maybe it’s easier to relate to the pain of others than it is to share your own pain, at least for a while. I could never talk a lot about what happened to me. My own trauma is not an easily understood thing, not even here.
So I was that great listener. It was healing to feel close to others, even if only in that role.
But at some stage, I got totally worn out. And I attracted self centred people and others not self aware enough to realise the conversation is way too one way to be healthy.
I think I could relate to the struggles of others but I got tired of making myself invisible. I know I created that.
Nobody should live like a ghost.
I’m trying to be a real person now, not just a caring ear!!
So I was that great listener. It was healing to feel close to others, even if only in that role.
But at some stage, I got totally worn out. And I attracted self centred people and others not self aware enough to realise the conversation is way too one way to be healthy.
I think I could relate to the struggles of others but I got tired of making myself invisible. I know I created that.
Nobody should live like a ghost.
I’m trying to be a real person now, not just a caring ear!!