Obsessing over my abusers and thoughts of revenge

[Deleted member 46752]

does anyone else have some of the same occurrences? like I feel that I can never be safe until those people are held accountable/acknowledge their wrongs. Now I know they never will and in fact many of them seem "happy"/are oblivious to the damage they have done/some even revel in the pain they caused. How does one move past this and take their life back? It feels as if the abusers are always over my shoulder laughing at me

 

[Deleted member 47099]

Hey there,

Oooh, yeah, I struggled with this for a long, long, long time in trauma therapy.
Years and years.

I have moved past it now - it is possible.
As regards the "how" - all I can say is keep doing trauma therapy until you feel okay and the trauma no longer has a hold on you, until you've moved *beyond* it.

 

[Deleted member 46752]

Hey there,

Oooh, yeah, I struggled with this for a long, long, long time in trauma therapy.
Years and ye...

Thanks me and my therapist are going over this

 

[joeylittle]

It feels as if the abusers are always over my shoulder laughing at me

Don't look back over your shoulder.

I don't mean to be glib - but you can learn, over time, to get pretty good at focusing where you allow your mind to go. I think it'd be helpful (maybe) for you to explore those thoughts about wanting them to be held accountable. How much is your stress around this rooted in fear vs. anger?

 

[Deleted member 46752]

Don't look back over your shoulder.

I don't mean to be glib - but you can learn, over time, to get...

Thanks for the response, probably a mix of both but mainly anger I would have to say

 

[joeylittle]

mainly anger I would have to say

Do you think your anger is justified - appropriate - to the situation?