Oh My Useless Memory!!

[Ghostybear73]

I'm taking anger management classes online and for every lesson you have an assignment. For example, before you go to sleep think of all the things that can cause you anger for the next day and think of ways you can divert it (this way you are thinking with a clear mind). Okay, so here's the problem: I'm on lesson four and I can't remember the assignments for the previous lessons. So, every time I try to do something, like previously mentioned, I forget what it was that I was supposed to do. Then I get angry that I have to look it up again. By this time I'm too irritated to care about doing the assignment because I no longer have a clear mind. I think I've missed the point of the whole "anger management" idea. :roflmao:

 

[DMerish]

The last think I'd want to do before sleep is to think of all the things that make me angry. That sounds counter-intuitive to me because the last things you think at night you carry with you. Plus, one is simply tired and wanting to go to sleep!

If it were me, I think I'd try getting up a bit earlier in the morning and trying the exercises then - with a cup o'joe beside me so I'm awake, so I consciously call up the anger and they ways I can divert the angry thoughts/feelings, and when I do then reward myself with something yummy to eat like a Danish pastry with breakfast. I don't know - just my $0.02.

 

[Ghostybear73]

Well, tell that to the anger management class. I'm just trying to follow directions. :happy:

 

[Seasounds]

Oh, your anger is the problem. Thanks for pointing that out.

I'd still say you are smart. And to work with your anger, there are so many choices. What helps?

 

[Ghostybear73]

Ah, you see there, you are all missing the point. My memory is gone and It just keeps getting worse. Its not the class or the assignments I am having a problem, it is the anger that I have with my short term memory loss and having to constantly go back to look at the assignments. See, I'm getting angry that I am forgetting the anger management assignments. I am trying to make light of my anger......hey, maybe the class is working. :)

 

[digger]

Could you try repeating each assignment over a few days until it sticks before going onto the next one?

 

[Ghostybear73]

Of course, that's the idea. Repeat it for 3 to 4 days, then start on the next one, but you still use the first one. Your supposed to just add on to what you have learned. I think I have a solution though. I'm going to write them down so I'm not constantly having to look them up. Thus beating that part of the anger!

 

[Ghostybear73]

@change. So far every assignment has been helpful. If I go to sleep knowing that I have a plan for the next day, it will make the night and the day easier. No stressing all night about the problems I am going to have the next day, like a student getting fired from their internship.

Also, I go to the gym every night as I am an avid swimmer. So I started practicing breathing exercises, which I have tried before and failed. When you are floating in the waiter and take a deep breath, your body rises above the water, when you breathe out your body goes back in and you can hear all the sounds the water makes and you can hear your heartbeat pound lightly in your ear. If I keep practicing every nigh, then I have something to fight with when I get angry. I don't remember the other two tools, but after I write them down, it will be easier. ;)