Ok To Be Having Difficulty Coping

[BlueOrange]

So, when I was getting my diagnosis, I was living on my own in the cheapest place I could find. Other people who lived in that block of flats included drug addicts, gang members, invalids, and really quiet people who kept to themselves and moved out as fast as they could.

My survival depended on coping with a whole bunch of horrible crap, so I took a 'no excuses' attitude to coping. It didn't matter what you threw at me, I needed to cope with it. Once I was back in the workforce, this helped me to make progress (up until the inevitable crashes).

I was always 'coping with everything' or 'not coping with anything'. It seems that my current task is to find the middle ground.

 

[The Albatross]

Please continue.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

So, when I was getting my diagnosis, I was living on my own in the cheapest place I could find. Othe...

One minute, one hour, one day at a time. Live in the present. That is all we really have for sure. What is past is past. We need to learn from it, but we don't need to live in it. Truths are truths. believe what you know to be true, not what we think might be true. That is the hard part. Many of us like myself only know the macro of what happened to us and not the micro. If we let it, it can drive us crazy with the desire to complete the micro connection. I for one am not going to let it drive me crazy. If I find the micro, wonderful. If I do not, just as wonderful. You will find your middle ground. Let the middle ground come to you......It will.

 

[ladee]

And sometimes we are not sure what the middle ground looks like, as we have lived a lot of our years in extremes.... Hope your T is helping guide you with this... and don't be upset or hard on yourself if it's something that takes time to learn... middle ground is abnormal for us.... takes time to understand and for it to make sense.... you will do great on this part of your journey @BlueOrange, just as you have worked to get here to recognize this is what needs to happen next. Success for you on this part of the journey..