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[Deleted member 29920]

100% agree with Ragdoll.

 

[Deleted member 541]

No, I don't think it's ok to suggest it. I just think that a lot of men, think with their "little head" instead of their big head. The little head isn't connected to anything, and with some men, their big head lacks a brain. JMO!!!

 

[Suzetig]

I do think it's about whether it's ok for you, and it's clearly not ok with you which is all that matters. In thinking about his motivation, would he normally be purposefully hurtful to you or try to make you feel less than? If not I'd be inclined to clearly, but gently explain how you were left feeling. If he wouldn't purposely hurt you and seems generally happy with you and your body my assumption would be that he just didn't think before speaking, the reason I'd go gently is because he may have no idea how hurt you are and will hear it better if you're not basically telling him off.

If he does generally make hurtful or derogatory remarks about your appearance my response would be much stronger.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Seriously, I think that the only time it would be ok to say this to a woman was if she has mentioned that breast inhancment was something that she had been thinking about doing. I think it's a degrogatory and hurtful thing to say otherwise. What he's saying is that he wants bigger boobs on her and that he's not satisfied with the way she is now. Just plain rude!

I would have turned to him and said, (with a smile on my face) "How awesome would it be if we both went in together, and you could get that short skinny little dick of your fixed at the same time." Kind of puts things is perspective......

 

[Suzetig]

I accept that's your opinion, mine is different, it just wouldn't have bothered me. I really don't see how making a similarly derogatory comment to him is in any way ok. Fine if you want tit for tat sniping (no pun intended) but, assuming someone was hurt by the comment - and the OP clearly was - it's hard to communicate that he was wrong when you engage in the exact same behaviour.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Suzetig I respect your opinion also. We all know that for many out there that a woman's breast is kind of a touchy subject for many. The size of a women's breast can seriously affect her opinion of herself. Society puts a huge emphasis on a woman's appearance and breast size. So, having a man make a remark like this, for me, is a negative statement. I don't care how he said it, or with what tone he used.

I just feel that if a man has the balls to make a statement like this to his girlfriend (or any woman) he better be man enough to take a remark about his penis. And we all know how important (or how big) guys think their penis are.

 

[Justmehere]

Would he respond well if you made an "off the cuff" and "silly" remake that he go get a penile implant and enhancement?

Probably not. And if so, there may be a deeper issue here.

Actually, just the fact that you think he will blow off your feelings suggests there is an issue that's more important than cup size.

Does he do this kind of thing often?

 

[EveHarrington]

I have yet to meet a guy who isn't über sensitive about his "size" no matter how big he is.

Dare to crack a c*ck joke or make a comment that in any way could be interpreted as saying his manhood is small, and you'll get nastiness, sulking, and/or acting butt hurt.

But it's ok for guys to want their women to get fake implants that can cause all sorts of medical problems.

Is that really caring about your partner?

"Hey honey, you need bigger boobs. I know they can cause all sorts of medical problems but it's more important for you to stay hot so I can get my jollies off".

Good lord.

Tell him his cock is so small that the sex isn't good and he needs an implant down there. Yeah it would probably be the end of the relationship but if it were me, the relationship would have been over with that implant comment.

Oh but I want to add that every guy I've been with prefers the real thing. No matter what the size.

 

[aut555]

... is it ever ok for a man to suggest to his girlfriend that she might start to save up for breast a...

My father use to point out well endowed woman once in awhile. It made my mom sad because she was a small tiny petite lady. I know she had an fling because l think he made her feel bad. But they lived married together forever all the same. He was abusive so l am chalking this up too part of the abuse. As long as he isn't pointing out every female walking by etc. then maybe he just fantasizes you more buxom. At least he isn't thinking about someone else. If you lose weight, those are the first things to go, like bam, what happened to my chest.

 

[hodge]

Yep, every guy I've been with prefers the real thing, too. Hubby loves my modest ones. I'm finally grateful to be an A cup, cause if they were bigger, they'd probably be sagging by now.:eek:

 

[hodge]

Yeah, @aut555, I've gained some weight over the past 6-8 months and hubby likes that they're a little bigger with the weight gain. That's the only good thing about weight gain. When I get back down to where I like to be, yeah, bam, where'd they go? He never complains about that, though. We're about a lot more than physical attributes.

 

[EveHarrington]

My father use to point out well endowed woman once in awhile. It made my mom sad because she was a small...

That stinks! I think I'm the outlier. When I lose weight the chest never goes (contrary to what happens to most). I also lose from the waist first while most people lose it last.