General Overboard With The Overprotectiveness.

[Sweetpea76]

I know it's a symptom.

I know it.

Sometimes he makes me feel like a child that needs babysitting. I have managed to stay alive up into my thirties... I think I can go to a nightclub with girlfriends and survive. Did I mention I was the designated driver so I didn't drink and I texted him when we got there, throughout the night, and told him when we left for home?

I don't know what to do about the hypervigilance and overprotectiveness. I know I need to let him do it to feel safe, but he needs to unclench a little bit before he smothers me.

Any advice?

 

[illusionist]

I used to be terrible with my partner...until he told me it had to stop, for his own sanity. This made me realize how bad I was and I needed to do something about it. He is entitled to go out and enjoy himself without having to reassure me that he is still alive and not died through some freak accident throughout his time out.....it was not up to him to pacify my mind, I had to learn to do it for myself.

I'm lucky in that my partner is an excellent timekeeper....if he says he will be home by a certain time he normally is. We have a rule that if he's going to be later he just checks in with me so that I don't panic...he has seen the affect on me by not doing this. I will only phone him if I really need to do so, as in an emergency.....this is a strict rule I have for myself.

We basically set a new routine. We got rid of the bad routine which had no rules and started a new routine with much needed very simple rules. The rest, I had to work on myself as it was only me who could change what was going on in my head and how I reacted to it.

 

[Peach]

I have no advice, just wantde to say I'm glad you were able to have a night out...even if the ending with your man wasn't great. I've had a bug to go dancing for the past few weeks. I need to bust a move! Unfortunately, the clubs in Atlanta DO scare me. LOL:wideeyed:

 

[Sweetpea76]

He's been awful about it for two entire days. Two days... what-the-everlasting-F*? I didn't go to Iraq and camp in the desert alone :mad: