I have met a guy who has PTSD. We have to stand our ground and pander to these men and why should we? As long as we do not hold them accountable for their behavior, what is their impetus to change? Accommodating these men with their self serving ways is not going to give us much of a life. I am leaving my bf as I refuse to lose precious years of my life with this man. I did not sign him up for military service; he sought it out and took on a job he felt he could handle. Men survived WWII horrors and rarely did we hear from our families about anything besides their devotion to their families. They worked and did not hang around like a petulant child. Sorry, but not for me. I have no issues and do not need to devote my life to a man who needs a mother.
These guys are spoiled by their parents and thus, have no coping mechanisms; they prefer to remain children. It is tough to grow up and to the lady who put in her own a/c!!!!, please do not waste your time with this loser. Yes, they are losers, not men. I have always been a giver and accommodated this man with only the best I could give. He, in turn, would fabricate angst against me and embarrass and disrespect me unlike anyone I have ever known. I have good self respect and if he can respect his buddies, he can sure as hell respect me if I am always doing for him and being a kind partner.
Frankly, I have found out the best measure of a quality relationship; the success is dictated by how you feel when you are with this person. Do you feel like crap or do you feel good and happy? I have had a harsh life and I came out okay. Why?.. because the harshness I lived does not define or excuse me from being a decent person to my companion, husband, or boyfriend. I am finding I curse and act out due to being treated with unwarranted disrespect and experiencing his tactics he used on the enemy.
He has given me PTSD from his bi-polar episodic adventures. I talked to a Delta Force friend about this. He told me, "No, it does not get better and will never go away. I am not putting myself in a noose for anyone. Please move forward, there are normal helpful sweet men everywhere! Best of Luck, just realize it is up to you!
These guys are spoiled by their parents and thus, have no coping mechanisms; they prefer to remain children. It is tough to grow up and to the lady who put in her own a/c!!!!, please do not waste your time with this loser. Yes, they are losers, not men. I have always been a giver and accommodated this man with only the best I could give. He, in turn, would fabricate angst against me and embarrass and disrespect me unlike anyone I have ever known. I have good self respect and if he can respect his buddies, he can sure as hell respect me if I am always doing for him and being a kind partner.
Frankly, I have found out the best measure of a quality relationship; the success is dictated by how you feel when you are with this person. Do you feel like crap or do you feel good and happy? I have had a harsh life and I came out okay. Why?.. because the harshness I lived does not define or excuse me from being a decent person to my companion, husband, or boyfriend. I am finding I curse and act out due to being treated with unwarranted disrespect and experiencing his tactics he used on the enemy.
He has given me PTSD from his bi-polar episodic adventures. I talked to a Delta Force friend about this. He told me, "No, it does not get better and will never go away. I am not putting myself in a noose for anyone. Please move forward, there are normal helpful sweet men everywhere! Best of Luck, just realize it is up to you!
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