Partner with ptsd, at my wits end . i'm so alone

[ExhaustedPartner]

It is often not easy to pick up and leave, especially when you have children. The years invested, the hope that things wil...

Currently waiting to see a therapist myself, to help me deal with everything.

 

[Renig]

My partner of 10+ years has recently been diagnosed with ptsd from childhood trauma. I try everything I can...

I am hoping by now you are close to making the decision to leave. You and your children are being abused and do not deserve it. He needs a lot of help - much more than you can give him. He has to want help and frankly I don't think he is there or he is "out of it" that he can not see the damage he is doing to you and your children. If you choose you can be there for him when he gets better. But right now you need to take care of you and your children. You need to confide in family and friends and get the help you need to be safe from this abuse. I am sorry if this sounds blunt but I come from an extremely abusive family - you need to get the hell out of there.

 

[Medodor]

I hate when threads jump to "it's abuse", mostly due to stubbornness surrounding my own relationship with a PTSD sufferer. Some with PTSD isolate (flight), some lash out (fight). With that being said, there are children involved here and based on their questions, they are obviously aware. I think it is time for you to take concrete action until your husband is better able to control his behavior and reactions, while knowing that he's not going to get better unless he is the one that starts wanting to make a change. I also especially think that he should be the one that has to leave and go cool off somewhere else when upset or want to be done, not you and the kids. At this point, the kids definitely need to be priority here.

 

[Omalo]

My partner of 10+ years has recently been diagnosed with ptsd from childhood trauma. I try everything I can...

I have complex PTSD. We all have ways of acting out our behaviour ... its very complicated and again its a long long long long list of things because we all have had different triggers and experiences which have led us to beomg .. What I want to say to you is that you need to get support for you and dont put up with his abusive behaviour. PTSD affects us all differently. He is obviously needing help with a medical profession to sort out his behaviour outbursts. Your children and you need to know that you can live in a peaceful home. Try and get some support for you and your man asap. Dont put up with his abuse anylonger !

 

[Dubot]

And if he doesnt want to get help then thats his choice and you need to start thinking about you and your kids...

 

[Fasebo]

My partner of 10+ years has recently been diagnosed with ptsd from childhood trauma. I try everything I can...

I had my childhood trauma and I've been living with one, so I might be able to answer this one.

Your partner has a problem of self-control by releasing his anger and stress towards you up front, and by the way the things he's done is a form of verbal and emotional abuse. That would be dangerous for the kids. I hate to break kids' innocence and that won't be healthy for you and the kids.

No, you're not being mean or cruel for venting. That's what this place is for and we can't always keep things bottled up inside. Seeking help from people is better than not doing anything and keep things bottled up inside and the let the cycle continues. Maybe you could go to therapy together and communicate it better if you've done all the talking before you go to this forum.