Platitudes: Which Ones Make You Scream?

[lifeguard17]

"Think positive. There's no such word as can't."

If I could think positive, maybe I wouldn't be gritting my teeth to stop from screaming at you. And no such word as can't? WHAT PLANET ARE YOU ON?!? Just give me a random fact to think about, then teach me something you're passionate about, don't try and tell me how to cope with something you know nothing about and you CERTAINLY don't know me! grr...

 

[AngelaMarie]

It is what it is.:confused:

 

[Hashi]

"This too shall pass."

This too is my all time most hated platitude.

How do you know? Pass when? When I die?

This TOO? As in, you've had one horrible thing after another, you'll get through this one as well?

Trauma and it's effects don't "pass", as if they're floating down a nearby stream. They tear you apart and... oh, never mind. If you're capable of saying something like this, what's the point?

 

[windwoman]

"You can't have PTSD you haven't been in a war."
"If you just go back to work you would feel more in control, and would feel so much better."
"At least you don't have cancer."

 

[Hashi]

"At least you don't have cancer."

Really a horrible thing to say, on several levels. Ugh.

 

[soulofLC]

"I went through so much as a child, why don't I or my sister have PTSD? Why do you get so angry? No one owes you anything." This from a family member who I now avoid like the plague...

 

[soulofLC]

My mother said to me about the sexual abuse, "I was the sacrifice that she had to make!"

Oh, ((((Ms Spock)))) I am so sorry. No, she was not a nice person, and we can include her in your series of rockets to the moon, another solar system or further. I will help you with the fuel.

 

[Sandra]

So many people shouldn't have had children and my parents sure fit that bill.

 

[soulofLC]

Ditto here.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Admittedly I haven't read the whole thread (it's long!), so I'm just responding to the OP.

I HATE the "everything happens for a reason" line with a passion!! Uhm, NO, it doesn't! Sometimes shitty people do shitty things. End of story. Trying to ascribe meaning where there is none is a way for people to feel better about a situation they can't wrap their heads around so they spout off this crap in an attempt to soothe.

I would feel like the worlds biggest douche if I spouted this crap off to someone else who has experienced any sort of trauma.

 

[CraftyCath]

Well said ScaredOf. I seem to spend my time shaking my head in disgust at the platitudes that come from peoples mouths.

 

[Sterre]

I HATE the "everything happens for a reason" line with a passion!!....

SOL, I agree with you on this wholeheartedly!!!!

I HATE it when people come up with this spiritual crap, because it implies that there is a reason that this has happend to you and not to them. You should learn a lesson out of it, is the message behind it. As if we are gaining anything from the lesson we didnt wanted to learn in the first place to begin with! It is selfrighteous and It is ridiculous!

As if I wanted to learn about how people mistreat eachother! As if I wanted to know what an unsafe world feels like! As if I wanted to know that people cant be trusted!
Bleeghhhhh :poop:

Really ....such a crappy way to give meaning to the horrors of the world!