Platitudes?

[ladee]

@EveHarrington , too bad we don't have an 'Over reaction Olympics', we would have some serious medals by now wouldn't we....:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

 

[EveHarrington]

@ladee

I'd be a 15 time gold medal winner in multiple overreaction events spanning a number of Olympics!

LOL

 

[Friday]

No matter what you write, some people will love it & some people will hate it & the rest are somewhere in the middle.

If I worried about how other people are going to take what I write? I'd never write anything at all! Because there is absolutely no way to please everybody. So please yourself, and let the chips fall where they may, at least they fall honestly.

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Bee yourself ;) <((())o
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That's a really terrible drawing of a bee.

 

[Enaila]

Whew... I wasted a paranoid episode ???? :nailbiting::nailbiting::nailbiting: I don't want to get 'too' h...

Thank you for the smile

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I know all too well what it feels like to put yourself out there and be afraid that you won't get any responses.

I know what its like to post and message asking for support to help not cut and it was met by silence both ways (not this site) and that in of itself sent me spinning. "See, no one cares" so I try to do this at all times:

saying something kind, or even just "I get what you're saying" is a big deal.

And yes it is a big deal and that is why i do that, a lot. So threads i can relate to, dont have advise for as im still struggling, but can relate to i advise i can relate, i get it, i feel ya and this is why, etc. Its huge to just be understood and accepted.

What the f*ck is a platitude anyway, attitude mixed with what? Im trying to figure out the other word and coming up empty.

In either direction, written word can be taken wrong but especially on a mental health forum and so i try very hard to type that this is my opinion, nothing against you etc. I try to type out the intent the best i can. I try anyway and then re-read it a bazillon times (5 times more than most due to being dyslexic) and try to word it or re-word it in the best way/frame possible. If they mistake it at that point, well i can say i did all i could and its on them.

ETA: I also try to "like" as much as possible. It used to freak me out when people liked my posts (not anymore so continue on liking ;)) due to my family and so i never thought to "like" comments until someone advised me that its sort of a big deal to do so (i didnt even think about it) so now i try to "like" stuff i agree with, sometimes i will forget and "like" it later but getting better. And it makes sense as when i get an alert that someone "liked" something i said, it makes me smile.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

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Bee yourself ;) <((())o
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That's a really terrible drawing of a bee.

Is that what thats supposed to bee? ;)

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Mine isnt better. I dont know how people do typing drawings. I should as an artist but dont lol.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

You're one of my favourite posters @Mal Content.

If I see a notification with you...

Wow, Mary, thank you! That was so kind of you! :hug:

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Since my diagnosis, I have less faith in my judgement than I used to. Sometimes it feels like I'm on a different page than everyone else, but they're too polite to tell me. :p

Thank you all so much for your opinions. I'm going to assume that this is the opinion of the majority of us, and I will continue to do what I've been doing. :hug: to all!

 

[Enaila]

I know what its like to post and message asking for support to help not cut and it was...

Platitude I believe is a placating attitude.

 

[Ava Jarvis]

Platitudes are stuff that people say that are a bit tone deaf, like, "God meant for you to feel like this," "You must have done something to deserve this," "You must have learned to hope so well," "The abuse made you a better person," "God meant for that accident to happen," stuff like that.

Platitudes don't come from the heart. They don't come from a place of understanding. I'm always wary for these things.

But no one here speaks in platitudes. Especially not you, @Mal Content. People here understand. And because they understand, they don't say stuff like the above. "I get how you're feeling" isn't a platitude at all. It is comraderie. It is understanding. It is, in some way, love.

If platitude carries some other meaning for that other person, I'm not sure what it is.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

placating attitude.

That makes no sense in the form its being used and the definition of placating when i googled it. A synonym in google is soothe. Maybe its like just to pacify (another synonym) with anything not meaningful but thats not the definition of placating.

Platitudes are stuff that people say that are a bit tone deaf, like, "God meant for you to feel like this," "You must have done something to deserve this," "You must have learned to hope so well," "The abuse made you a better person," "God meant for that accident to happen," stuff like that.

I have never seen any of those or anything like it here. If someone says i understand, its cause they truly do and certianly those arent going to be said cause no one likes it.

 

[Enaila]

I thought by the way it was being used in earlier texts it might mean that. Sorry for any confusion or misunderstanding. I, personally would accept a person who knows what PTSD feels like saying, " I understand," whereas someone who has not experienced the anguish of PTSD I think may just be trying to placate me and I wouldn't be so open to them.