Sexual Assault Please help i don't know what to do

[Thomasthesid98]

So, my girlfriend who is 18 right now, but was 17 at the time has just informed me that her mailman, a family friend of almost 10 years, offered to take her photos for prom, which isn't bad, until he started offering her all kinds of money to come model for him, he is atleast 50 btw, but my girlfriend trusted him, so she went and let him take her pictures, they are at his house taking pictures, and he keeps asking for more and more provocative pictures and complimenting her, finally getting her to wear a thong and take her top off, which she said she was uncomfortable with, but was scared.... as far as I'm concerned this mailman is a sick criminal and should be held accountable, also consider we like 5 blocks from an elementary school, there are families all around here, who knows how many other kids hes done this too, I have confronted him, all he's said is he will get his attorney involved, and that we can't do anything because she's 18 now, which I know isn't true, we have texts asking to meet up and pay her for photos, we have some of the innapropriat ones, but he has the worst of them, which are all probably deleted, he has also threatened to file us for harassment of a federal worker, I think he's just trying to scare us, but my girlfriend is now too afraid to go to the police, and comments at all would really help, I'm so lost on what to do right now

 

[nowthisisme]

Do to your local police department and report it. He can NOT do anything to you, he is just trying to scare you away. Don't get scared, like you said you don't know who else this guy did it to or what else he did. Please don't take this lightly, I understand why your friend is scared but men like him should be stopped.
It doesn't matter that she's 18 now, she way underage when the pictures were taken.
If she's too scared to go ask her if you can go alone and report him. The police will take it seriously and follow up with him.
Do report it and don't talk to the guy, dont allow him to talk to any of you.
This is bad but it only stops when someone speaks up. It just takes one voice.

 

[Justmehere]

Why are you posting about this on a PTSD forum? Does she have PTSD?

As for this situation...

Leave Mr. Ceepy Mailman alone. Your girlfriend has made the decision to not report, and she’s been pressured enough already into doing things she really didn’t want to do. Stop pressuring her to report. She is aware it’s an option.

You will have to check with an attorney about the laws in your area, but in some areas, being 17 is actually old enough to consent to nude photos. If that is the case, and she consented, even if she regrets the choice, he may not have committed a criminal act with her. Check with the laws in your area.

What I’m really concerned about is how pushy *you* are being. You are not a lawyer, not a police officer, nor the victim, and yet you are pushing and pushing for what YOU want to happen without going through the proper channels.

You getting arrested for harassment has nothing to do with her reporting or not. It will be because of your behavior. Yours. Even if what he did was illegal, trying to talk to him won’t help the situation at all, but what you are doing is convincing her to not get help. So stop trying to go after him.

There may be a criminal act here, and the police or an attorney are the best ones for you to speak to in order to be sure about that. You yourself can go ask the police if this is the case and maybe they can let you know one way or another if a 17 year old consenting to nude photos is legal in your area or not.

But even if it is illegal, you are going to only end up in a world of trouble if you do keep pursuing Mr. Creepy Mailman.