I’m so sorry that happened to you. Sexual abuse is awful no matter who or when or in what form. My mother didn’t commit actual incest or overt sexual abuse, but she did some seriously questionable stuff that was very unfortunately timed so as to correspond almost exactly with my first sexual assault by a man (not a family member) at age 3-4. Just compounded the actual abuse. She did commit emotional incest as well but that isn’t sexual. She was very inappropriate when I was “coming of age” (I can’t even type that phrase without internally cringing) as well. It would be untruthful to say she actually sexually abused me, but she certainly compounded the trauma I was going through with men, by making women feel dangerous too.