I unknowingly did something to trigger my sufferer this week. I have a terrible trait of talking in my sleep, so who knows what I said. Whatever it was, it triggered him. Instead of him shutting me out, or worse, starting a a fight with me- he chose some healthy coping skills. First he went out and exercised (I was still sleeping at the time and was clueless as to what had happened). When he came back, he told me he was in a bad place, but initially wouldn't say why.
I gave him enough space to unwind, even though what I really wanted to do was badger him as to what had happened. He hadn't eaten, so I made him something wholesome to eat, because I know it helps balance him when he's struggling. After he ate, he was able to open up a little more. Within the next two hours,we had had a healthy conversation about what was really going on without any blow-ups, misunderstandings, or shut downs.
This is progress for both of us. I knew not to press it and he tried not to escalate things unnecessarily. It was progress. :clap:
Where have you seen progress, even if only in your behavior alone?
Shoka
I gave him enough space to unwind, even though what I really wanted to do was badger him as to what had happened. He hadn't eaten, so I made him something wholesome to eat, because I know it helps balance him when he's struggling. After he ate, he was able to open up a little more. Within the next two hours,we had had a healthy conversation about what was really going on without any blow-ups, misunderstandings, or shut downs.
This is progress for both of us. I knew not to press it and he tried not to escalate things unnecessarily. It was progress. :clap:
Where have you seen progress, even if only in your behavior alone?
Shoka
