Proud Abusive Ex

[LilSam]

I came home today and spoke to my girlfriend. She said that today at her school, my abusive ex girlfriend said she was proud of ruining my life and that I'm not worth anything. It makes me so depressed that my girlfriend deals with that bs daily. It affects me too though and the other night I had my first proper panic attack, struggling to breath or move or speak... I really love my girlfriend but the people around me say it would be easier to break up with her and lose connections to my ex than to stay with her. I'm kind of depressed and unsure what to do.

(FaQ: I have a therapist, the police know about my rape and abuse, my parents don't care or help.)

 

[Casey_03]

Why do the two of them even have contact? Is this a matter of the ex harassing your girlfriend or the two of them being on friendly terms somehow?

 

[EveHarrington]

Tell your girlfriend that if she hears anything about your ex, to keep it to herself. IMHO it's your girlfriend who is being cruel by passing on this info to you. Your ex will flap her jaw regardless------do you need to know? No.

And if your girlfriend can't keep her yap shut, then I'd say dump her-----your friends/family are right.

 

[Thizette]

I agree with @EveHarrington, your gf doesn't need to share that shit with you. It's hurtful. And she can choose not to acknowledge or be around your ex any more than she has to for work/school purposes, so why isn't she?

 

[LilSam]

Why do the two of them even have contact? Is this a matter of the ex harassing your girlfriend or the...

Same school.